Birth injuries- am I stuck with them forever?

[WatermelonEllen]

So I had my first baby 14 months ago, I had a really quick normal birth, induced because my waters broke two days previously. It was all over with in less than two hours and I was on cloud nine immediately after the birth. Quickly came back down to earth with a bump when I had to go to theatre for the placenta to be removed and had a third degree tear. I had rectal bleeding and immense pain for around four months and was then diagnosed with an anal fissure. I was given cream and suppositories which didnt help and eventually had surgery and botox on it about 7 months later. I'm now six months following that procedure and still having pain and can feel the fissure. To add to this I also have a slightly prolapsed bladder which makes me feel constantly heavy down there. I also had PGP and was on crutches in pregnancy and I can still feel that my pelvis isn't right at all especially when I am laid in bed. I just feel like I'm at the end of my tether with it all, I'm fairly young (i like to think!) And feel horrified that I will be like this for the rest of my days. I'm a shadow of my former self and it's starting to affect my mental health. Can anyone offer any advice or reassurance that things might improve slightly? It breaks my heart to think we will never give dd a sibling because of the physical issues I have had. I did have some follow up booked with gynae, physio and the rectal docs but these have all been cancelled due to covid.

Sorry i didnt know where to post this and i have also name changed as it is quite personal and identifying

I had a prolapsed bladder, bowel and uterus after my last baby (if he'd been my first I reckon he would have been my last too!) and it made me feel horribly depressed even though the prolapses were fairly mild.

I did end up having surgery (womb ) but not the other two, and while it took a few years, I no longer have that heaviness or discomfort. I do need to wee a lot, and my bladder doesn't empty on first go..I have to wee again 5 mins later which is a pita, but it doesn't spoil life. Ditto bowels..never functioned on their own again but I have a management programme to keep things moving, again, a pita but perfectly manageable.

In other words..things never went quite back to normal, but I DID have to insist on referrals to get my uterine prolapse fixed and I did a lot of gynae exercises. I remember clearly how depressed I was and that it would feel like that forever, but life is fine now, with a few adjustments.

Don't be fobbed off.. if you need surgical attention for your bladder, cry and turn up at the docs weekly until you are seen!!!

I also had birth injuries and got fobbed off by my GP. They just sent me to a women’s health physio who tried to convince me that it was absolutely fine that my cervix was hanging out of my vagina and my husband wouldn’t notice during sex
I was so upset as I was there because I felt mutilated and I was incontinent due to the prolapse. I didn’t give a fuck about sex at that point!
I switched to one of the male GPs in desperation and he was fab. Sent me off to Gynae and got repaired.
So like PP said, don’t be fobbed off! Make sure they refer you for your issues.

No OP you should not be stuck with them forever. Keep pushing until you have all the corrective surgery you need. Also do not despair, it gets easier.
I had a 3rd degree tear with my first as well. I also broke my tailbone in childbirth and that has never gone back, it is permanently dislocated. I also have had surgery for anal fissure too which was awful to recover from as well as embarrassing as anything. But I went on to have three more babies and only had 2nd degree tears or less for them. I joke that my eldest paved the way and was the trail blazer for the rest as their births were much easier and caused far less damage.

I have a different type of birth injuries. I’ve repeatedly been told by different doctors that there’s nothing they can do on the NHS and I just have to live with it. I asked for physiotherapy to ease the pain and was told to look on Google for exercises because the NHS can’t afford to pay for luxuries like that. The only thing they’re willing to offer on the NHS is pills to reduce the pain. I’ve since discovered that I can have surgery privately for around £6000 so I’m saving up.

My coccyx was dislocated, and I had to have repair surgery a year after birth to correct my tear which lead to nerve damage, which led to continence issues. It was the most awful time in my life.
Thankfully it all healed up after a few years and apart from having to pee more often, it has gone back to normal.