What are your rules for phone use?

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I'm planning to buy my DD a phone for a 11th birthday which is in a few weeks, I think it's a good time for her to get one since she'll be starting secondary school in September. I'm trying to decide some rules for what she can and can't do. I'm thinking she won't be allowed her phone in her room at night and has to ask before installing any apps. I'm wary about letting her have social media, she's been asking for a phone for months, a lot of her friends have phones and social media and she's wanting to get tiktok but I'm not sure if I want her to. Most social media is 13+ and she'll only be turning 11. Does anyone go through their DC phone? I don't want her to feel like she has no privacy but I also want to make she sure she's keeping herself safe, not doing anything she shouldn't

When my dd and ds first got their phones, they had to agree that I could look through it at any time. They also weren't allowed it upstairs at night. The screentime function wasn't available when they got their phones, but that might be worth a look.
In regards to social media, I allowed musically (which is now called tiktok), whattsapp, and Instagram (but I again had the rule that I could follow them with my own account, go through their followers list to check they knew everyone that followed them, and could look at their direct messages). you can enable restricted mode on tiktok, and family safety mode, which filters out inappropriate content. the link below is useful on how to make it safe for your dc, and if you google how to put restricted mode on, it will tell you. all the best x
www.mcafee.com/blogs/consumer/family-safety/is-the-tiktok-app-safe-for-kids

You need some kind of family app. They are available for Android and iPhones. I have control over the time by ds' phone basically shuts down for the night. He can't delete his browser history and he can't download apps without my consent. It's much easier having an app do all this than imposing the rules every time. Plus, you want some kind of find my phone function so you can see where they are! (Obviously all this needs loosening when they get older, but mines a pre-teen and I think can't be sent out into the internet alone)