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dudud · 02/07/2020 14:14

My wedding was cancelled due to covid. We have rescheduled, but most likely have to reschedule again. However the thought of having a big wedding is not something that makes me happy anymore.I get upset thinking about it. We have had a number "dramas" about why "we did not invite so and so partner", this coming from my partners side. As well as this we had invited 70 + people to the wedding, I say 20 of those people on OH side I don't know well or at all . I just don't know why I would get married in front of strangers, and some of these are cheeky enough to ask why their son or girlfriend isn't invited.

My partner is agreement that we should elope, sack the whole wedding off just me him and the kids. Then after just have a smaller gathering as a celebration. But we are not telling mine or his family or friends to save issues.

I have already got the bridesmaids dresses. But they are the second lot of bridesmaids dresses I have purchased as my MOH made such a fuss about the dresses. Stupidly I changed them for her. 3 out of the 6 bridemaids where sent their dresses so they could try then on at home as they live in different cities. But now I would like the dresses back as they cost a lot of money, and I have lost my job due to covid and I'm also at uni. I can still send these dresses back to the shop.

Right so now I will stop waffling on. What can I say to these ladies to get the dresses back without telling them we are eloping?

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Sunnydayshereatlast · 02/07/2020 14:18

Change of season so new theme /colour /seen something nicer...
Eloping sounds fab!!

Needcoffeecoffeecoffee · 02/07/2020 14:20

If they are your bridesmaids are they friends/people close to you? Hopefully they will understand.
I think I would say something like "due to change of circumstances and the rescheduling our originally wedding we have decided to get married quietly. We hope you understand. Could you arrange to send the dress back to me so I can return it for a refund?"

Needcoffeecoffeecoffee · 02/07/2020 14:20

Oh missed the not telling them bit!!!
Quite crucial sorry!!

Could they be trusted with the secret?

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FaceOfASpink · 02/07/2020 14:26

Just say you've changed your mind about the dresses again and can you please have them back. Pay for the cost of getting them returned to you.
It's not a lie because you have changed your mind - you're just not being specific about what you've changed it to.Grin

TeeBee · 02/07/2020 14:32

I'd say something along the lines of 'It looks as though our wedding will not go ahead as planned, even on the rescheduled date. Can you return the dresses so I can get a refund on them?' You don't need to explain further. Then just go and get married. Those who matter will get over it.

TeeBee · 02/07/2020 14:37

...and I'm speaking as someone who eloped.

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