After nearly two years in court with known listening to me about abuse me and my children experienced with an ex and contact had been granted my 4 yr daughter has told me she is being abused by her father. There have been so many little things I have been scared as well as bigger things because its clear his painting a picture that I am the abuser in terms of lying about what happened. I'm scared he will keep getting away with it and then convince the courts its me thats the problem further. I simple stopped saying anything and got ill physically as I watched all the little signs and missed it at the same time. When I phoned social services for help they told me what I was doing was hurting my daughter when I reported it to them about what she had told me. She said her daddy basically strangled although in different words amongst taping her wrists up and pushing her into an ironing board. His made it so the people I turn to for help simple think I'm the problem. I never say anything bad about him to her and I am very careful what she hears but it just means I feel like we are alone in this. The same thing happened when we were together he told others I was causing problems so my friends and anyone that I had as a support system just fell away. I don't feel safe to talk up as a result.