Would you let your DC attend this sleepover?

[Monr0e]

just curious as to what others think and would do.

DD been invited to a sleepover at the beginning of August for a close friend's birthday. I am good friends with her mum and she has said she completely understands if we say no.

The sleepover will be in a tent in the garden. It is a large 8 berth tent, each of the 4 girls will have their own sleeping pod with a central area in the middle. DFriend is putting together little bags for the girls for when they arrive containing a face mask, hand sanitiser and tissue (plus a few other treaty bits)
They have a downstairs loo the girls can use overnight separate from the family bathroom.

She knows I am hesitant and has asked if there is anything else she can put in place that would make it OK.

So would you let your DC go?
Or would it be a flat no? And if so, what else would you say she could do that might change your mind?

The other 2 girls have accepted so DD is really keen to go. Thank you.

I would say no.

I agree with @frazzledquaver - at the moment it's against the guidelines.

I wouldn't. I watched a tv programme about a girl kidnapped raped and murdered while camping in the back garden. I'd only allow it if they were sharing a tent with adults. I wouldn't be too worried about the social distancing aspect.

No my children are only allowed stay with family.

Yes provisionally... With several conditions

• the local Covid situation nearer the time
• the girls being 'experienced' campers (so not if there's first time in a tent, but if they camp regularly I'd be ok with it)
• weather... I don't let mine sleep outside in thunder and high winds. A bit of rain is fine.

My elder DD had a camping sleepover for her 8th. They had a great time. And both my DDs have spent a large proportion of the last few months sleeping in tents/dens in the garden (and the other part in indoor dens.) No problems except the night one couldn't get to sleep because of the gunfire (from a shooting range!)

I'd rather an adult was in the tent

However, if the girls are in the same class and the school is not doing distancing then I'd not have a problem with it

@frazzledquaver
Completely agree. Why the sleepover??
It's not permitted, but as you say it may change in August.
It would a no from me.

Given the secure nature of the garden, yes. And re Covid they all seem to be in the same classroom bubble anyway. I think it breaks the exact guidelines but you're applying a big dollop of common. Sense.

I think the 'bubbles' referred to are households meeting up. So a grandparent who hasn't seen family etc. A classroom bubble is different...
I think a tent with children from different households sleeping isn't following the guidelines in any shape or form.

But it may have changed by August..

Yes my 10yo would love that.

what exactly are the face masks for ?

No, it’s against current guidelines.

Yes.

Yes absolutely would

If I was saying yes, I'd expect all of the tent vents open, plus the middle vents and possibly door cover so the mesh is allowing for air flow.

It's hard because if you intend to send to school in Sept, then they'll all be free mixing. But it does obviously pose potential risks..... I

I didn't read how old the girls are. The safety aspect sounds as fine as these sorts of occasions can be.

Probably my thinking would be, they spend as much of the time outside. If sitting talking in the tent, airflow with the mesh doors only not the outside door. Plus the obvious of if any of the children or their families have shown any symptoms in the lead non attendance, but you rely on them doing this....

Personally, I wouldn't. But my lo isn't at an age for such things and we've been shielding so reluctant to expose ourselves to anyone unnecessarily.

There's no fucking way I'd let my daughter sleep in a tent outside without an adult with her.

I’d say yes .. but my daughters having two friends sleep over In mid July for her birthday in her room with no face masks

Gardens aren't secure.

I'm pretty certain I (a slightly overweight, unfit woman in my 40s) could scale a 6ft fence in a few minutes, and that's without any handy flower pots or garden benches being around. Not to mention you can just push up the panels on a lot of fences.

Yes id let mine go.

Yes

No, not unless an adult also slept in the tent.
I'd be more concerned about the security angle rather than the risk of Coronavirus. I don't think a 6 foot padlocked gate /fence would be deterrent-enough.

Yes

Thanks for all your responses. A lot of yes's but also a fair few no's.

Re the safety aspect, the conservatory is glass, the door opens directly onto the garden and would be about 4 foot from the entrance to the tent. I think my DF was planning on sleeping in there to probably avoid the 10 year old chatter but be close enough they she could hear them if they shouted and needed her.

Re Covid, this is where I am more torn. Yes it is against current guidelines, however even if these change before August the risks will still be the same.

Yes I would

Yes

Yes, I would.