DP and I started living together at the beginning of lockdown (I moved into his flat). It was always the plan but lockdown meant it didn’t make sense for me to be paying rent on a flat I wasn’t living in so sped up me moving in by a few months.
In the last couple of months DP has gone back to work and as he’s self-employed he now has business coming out of his ears and is working 12-14 hour days 6 days a week. Prior to lockdown he worked 7 days a week but he’s decided he now wants to take sundays off for us to spend together.
The problem we have is that I’m working from home in the most utterly boring job which pays very well but gives me zero fulfilment. I am looking for a new role but obviously there aren’t many jobs about. I’m so bloody bored all day and want to chat and spend time with DP when he gets home.
Generally we’re really really happy and have a great relationship but he’s just sent me a long message saying how he’s feeling stifled and has zero time for himself anymore. He’s either at work or with me. He also feels uncomfortable with not doing anything for himself anymore. Because I have nothing to do from when I finish work at 5.30 to him getting home at 9/10 I tend to do all the chores and have dinner ready for him.
Im not really sure what the answer is. I think he just wants some time to chill and watch tv on his own when he gets in sometimes which is totally fine and I understand but I don’t want to feel like I have to shut myself in the bedroom so he can have his alone time.
Usually I have a very active social life and am out several times a week with friends/spend a lot of time at the gym but obviously at the moment there’s nowhere really for me to go out so I do spend 99% of my time at home. Any ideas how I can help him feel less suffocated?