Living kidney donation

[Dinosauraddict]

I didn't know where to put this, and didn't want to put it in AIBU. My DH is considering being tested to see if he's a match for a friend that needs a living kidney donation. We haven't mentioned this to friend yet (her DM was going to give her a kidney, but has just failed the final testing). What do we need to think about? Good/bad experiences welcome. A lot of things are worrying me.

It's an incredibly selfless thing to do. How lovely of your husband.

My friend did it for her husband a few years ago. She had a setback afterwards, but it was uncommon, and now they both live as normal lives as they can. It changed her husbands life.

If he isn't a match, he can go into a transplant pool, so his kidney would be donated to a stranger, but widens the chance of your friend getting a kidney from that pool as well. That would be something worth considering. Would he be happy to do that?

Thank you, he's the most selfless person I know. We know that I can't donate because I am quite poorly myself, but there's a bit of me that worries about if our child needs a transplant, they would be screwed because DH wouldn't have a spare, and mine aren't good enough to give.