How much do you and your DP have in common?

[4sandie]

Just curious to hear what other people have or don't have in common with their significant others! We generally have a lot in common except my DP occasionally likes watching really old movies or anything to do with wars which I don't particularly enjoy. I love nature and being outside whereas he likes to stay in and relax. I'm also quite sociable while DP doesn't like people very much

Quite a lot. We're both creative, very introverted and like a quiet life! We both like the outdoors and living rurally. Both like books and films though not always the same ones.

My husband and I are extremely similar. We have lots of fun together. There's really only one thing I can think of, and it's a certain kind of music. He loves it, I absolutely hate it. It's frenetic and makes me very anxious. Luckily, he's a lovely man and never listens to it around me.

Absolutely nothing actually in common but we are each other’s best friend , share the same core values, make each other laugh and give each other the space to do activities that interest us. We have thrived in lockdown and just celebrated 21 years of marriage

We don’t have much in common but we like watching the odd movie together and going for walks in scenic places. Dh loves anything to do with cars/coaches which don’t interest me but I always show an interest when he’s talking about it and I love sport and he always makes the time to listen to me.

both brought up with similar values in life
love of motorbikes
live music gigs
similar sense of humour
similar education level (him higher but im not dumb)

We've got a similar sense of humour but I think that's about it! We don't enjoy the same food or drink (we can never share a take away) or tv or music. Our hobbies and sports and what we do with friends are completely different, we don't even have any 'our friends' I've got my friends and he's got his and we don't mix much at all. I suppose politically and morally we're on the same page but I'd say I'm a fair bit further to the left.

Weirdly though we seem to work, i love him, I 'fancy' him, we have great fun together. He is my best friend and the person that I can most be myself with, he's probably the only person who knows me truly, he's just got rubbish taste in pastimes

Absolutely nothing! Complete opposite to each other! He likes football, rock music and watching tv. I hate all 3 of them. He hates my taste in music! We are complete opposite personalities too. I’m outgoing, quite extrovert and confident in social situations, he likes his own company. I don’t even know how we’ve lasted so long, we’ve been together 18 years, married 15.

Loads in common, it’s actually crazy how similar we are. We are both adventurous and outdoorsy, laugh at the same things, same values, morals and politics, we have lots of joint hobbies and interests, we are both young for our age, fun loving and positive. Both have strong work ethics and are hard working, both of us are all or nothing types, we love being at home just the two of us (and our dogs) but occasionally we get an urge and invite all our friends over for a party. We are always in synch tho. There has never been a time when one wants to party and the other doesn’t. We are also both sporty and v competitive. V similar upbringings. All our friends get on. We want to visit the same countries, see the same things. It’s just so much easier being married to someone who wants to do the same things as me!

We’re both introverted with crappy family relationships, neither of us wants kids, our politics align, our outlooks on finances are the same and we feel strongly about the same social issues. These things are really important to me.

Other than that, not much! We rarely watch TV together because there are few shows we both like, I hate sport and he’s a massive football fan, I’m awkward and nerdy and very academic while he is really street smart, down to earth and logical. We both like rock music but apart from a shared love of Metallica, we’re at opposite ends of the spectrum. Almost a decade has passed and I still can’t stand Iron Maiden

Apart from sharing similar values and both being fairly well educated we have very little in common , been extremely happily married for 31 yrs though so it works ok for us .

We have a love for travel. We also have a wicked sense of humour and make each other laugh about some really silly things. We love our food, I’m a fabulous cook. We have a great love with cheese and seafood. If we enter a room, we’re the first ones to break the ice with a funny one liner.
Dh is really sporty, I am not. He has his friends I have mine.
We have this weird thing where, I’d be thinking of something and he’ll mention it. It is really freaky!

We both like food, family orientated, a bit extravagant with money. We have a similar sense of humour. Neither of us are workaholics. Both like sex and quite passionate. Both loyal and easily hurt.
Not much in the way of shared hobbies though.

We're both fairly introverted, enjoy similar sort of holidays etc. We prefer different tv programmes, but will tolerate each other's choices

We have quite a few overlaps. So he listens to some shite music and thinks I do too, but we also like a lot of the same music.

Both like walking but he likes longer distance so does some without me as well as doing some together.

He watches lots of historical stuff and foreign dramas on tv that I don't watch, and I watch some trash tv that he hates, but we also have lots of programs we both like.

So I guess we have enough in common. My only worry is we have literally covered everything there is to know about each other and know each other's opinions on most things so running out of things to talk about.

Very little, completely chalk and cheese. I like staying home, he likes going out, he likes soap operas on TV, I like reading fantasy novels. He's and extrovert, I am an introvert, He's a saver, I'm a spender. Couldn't be more different really in what we like. BUT our morals and values are the same - work hard but family is the most important thing.

Wow, it's great to see how different and unique each relationship is! Just out of curiosity here - To everyone that said that you have a lot in common with your OH, do you still get to do the things you both like doing separately(on your own) as 2 individuals or is it a given that it's always done together? I was a little worried about posting as some may say that just because we don't have certain things in common or don't like all the same things it could be seen as a red flag. But to me (as a lot of you have said), we're both happy and love each other, get on super well and make each other happy, etc. and that's all that matters to us. I think it gives the relationship a good balance. Keep it coming!

Different nationalities, different "classes", he's a spender, I'm a saver, he's an actionman, I'm an academic, I'm the practical worker, he's the dreamer. We both read widely, travel, love animals, the same TV and music, laugh ceaselessly, share the same black-and-white moral code. Togther 20 years with barely a quarrel.

To be honest, apart from an extremely similar sense of humour, I can't think of much! We share a lot of the same values and have similar levels of intelligence. We enjoy similar films/tv/music, but not in every case. We have a lot of things where we differ - sometimes wildly. But the main thing is that we get on really well, we are each other's best friend and we don't get hung up on having to share the same thoughts /activities etc all the time. We've been together pretty much 24/7 during lockdown and really enjoyed having the time together. It works for us and has done for over 40 years.

Practically nothing although we balance each other out in a lot of ways

Fuck all! We met through our one mutual hobby (cycling) but other than that we are very different. He is 9 years younger than me, not academic, very practical and gregarious. I am quiet, bookish and have no common sense. It seems to work though as we've been together ten years now.

Exactly the same as @Ahwig here except we just celebrated 12 not 21 years.

Very little now I don’t drink. A serious illness changed me in many ways and the cracks are showing. I’d love to turn back the clock.

We have lots of shared interests especially travel, history, food, art etc. We make each other laugh a lot. I think we're similar emotionally as well, feel things deeply, very loving and a little bit needy! Both quite nerdy and academic, but sociable. Where we differ is things like taste in music and film (he is interested, I'm mostly not!), some TV shows - I like historical dramas, he likes American comedy like Family Guy/ Archer that I just don't get. I'm a bit more of a risk taker, he's a bit more cautious. We just get on well, quite happy being at home together during lockdown, enjoy our life together and our kids. I am very lucky. He's my best friend.

We share very similar core values, political views, education levels but on the surface we are very different.

I’m very introverted and he is very social. He is cool and calm and I am quite fiery and quick tempered. He is relaxed and optimistic, I am a bit neurotic and always expect the worst to happen.

We sometimes annoy each other a bit but balance each other out and generally get on very well with the occasional clash.

We have quite a lot in common especially playing board games but also have deprecate interest and areas that we have nothing in common.

I think a healthy balance of the two is what makes us work so well together