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Driving - please be kind

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PymChurchBeach · 29/06/2020 13:24

I have been learning to drive (in an automatic, had to give up on manual) for over a year. I have taken two tests and failed them both, one due to an emergency stop (not quick enough) and the other due to not overtaking a bus and also for leaving my indicator on (which I have never done once in lessons!).

My lessons stopped due to covid but are about to start again.

But my main problem with driving is something that I feel it is going to be nigh on impossible to overcome. Namely concentration. I am so shit at concentrating. Even when I think I'm being really focussed I get easily distracted and can make stupid mistakes. I am also really dreadful at judging distance - I can't tell when it's safe to overtake. This means that I generally get marked down for not overtaking, because I don't trust myself to judge the distance safely. I don't feel that I can take my eyes off the road for a minute to quickly glance over my shoulder to check.

I feel like there's something wrong with me as everyone else I've spoken to who has struggled with learning to drive has struggled for different reasons - like being crap at parking or not being able to get the hang of roundabouts. I can do all that no bother but my judgment and focus are awful.

How do I get over this? Has anyone else had the same problem? I'm starting to feel I have something wrong with me.

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PymChurchBeach · 29/06/2020 18:00

Buses! I'm in London. There are a lot of bloody buses.

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LycraLovingLass · 29/06/2020 18:11

I have terrible spatial awareness, I got better by practicing a lot. I was driving every single day for about 3 months to pass my test.

SimonJT · 29/06/2020 19:18

Ah yeah, in London it is constant over taking buses, vans etc.

Driving isn’t for everyone, my boyfriend was learning to drive and he has realised it just isn’t for him. So if it turns out the same for you that doesn’t mean you have failed in anyway, it means the opposite!

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PymChurchBeach · 29/06/2020 21:01

I have desperately got to learn to drive, it seriously hampers my life at the moment as it means I can't get anywhere unless I use public transport. Ordinarily that's fine but at the moment when we're not supposed to be using it it is a bloody nightmare!

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PymChurchBeach · 29/06/2020 21:02

And in terms of practice, yes there is a car I could practise in (the one I'll be driving if I ever pass), but I'm not insured on it - learners' insurance is crazy expensive and we just can't afford that on top of the lessons.

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BamboozledandBefuddled · 29/06/2020 21:10

Definitely try the running commentary. I was diagnosed with PTSD and anxiety last year. Once I was cleared to drive, I struggled with my concentration and saying everything out loud really did help. It took several months to really boost my concentration but that's very different circumstances to you, so hopefully it would help you quite quickly. Good luck Flowers

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