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Alone and pregnant

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Annastar124 · 29/06/2020 00:15

I’m currently 27 weeks pregnant with my second child. The father seemed ok and happy when we found out and then one day out of the blue when I was around 20 weeks he turns round and says he doesn’t want me or the baby anymore. I was in complete shock and have been crying everyday and broken ever since. He barely even contacts me now and I just feel like a nuisance, he says the most awful things to me, like he wished he never met me and he never wanted any of this. Then some days he’ll apologise and be normal for like 2 or 3 days then he’s straight back to this again. I’m exhausted mentally and physically. I feel so ashamed and embarrassed of the situation I’m in and so sad that I have to do this all on my own now. I can’t cut myself off from him but I don’t think he will ever change. I have quite a high risk complicated pregnancy with a low placenta and bleeding and he can’t drag himself to be there to support me. Apparently it’s my fault and he never wanted this baby, he even said “oh I suppose I’ll have to be there I’m stuck with you for life now” My heart is broken, do I just need to cut him out completely ? I really don’t want to be on my own but I can’t deal with this anymore. This is all making me so ill.

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Queenoftheashes · 29/06/2020 00:21

What an awful thing to do. He’s clearly scum - you’d be better cutting him off, yes. You’re not going to get any support from him anyway, just stress. You don’t need to be ashamed it’s him that’s behaving like a pig.

movinggoalposts · 29/06/2020 00:31

Run. If you can’t run, walk extremely quickly. If you can’t do that, just waddle as fast as you can. Honest to god, he’s showing you his true colours on his ‘off’ days. You and the baby deserve better. Being alone is better. Trust me.

Sunny4876 · 29/06/2020 00:35

I've been in this situation,please don't put him on the birth certificate even if he has a complete about face after the birth.It won't last and he'll have joint custody,not that he'll want it but will enjoy the power trip.

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Annastar124 · 29/06/2020 13:55

Thank you all for your messages. Every bone in my body is telling me to leave him to it and run. But I’m so stupid I still love him and want him even though I know he doesn’t care about me one bit.

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