If you have a 10 year old now

[BabyLlamaZen]

How did they sleep as a baby? Did they co-sleep? own room at 6 months? Contact nap? Bit of both?

And how do they sleep now? Would love to know if anything I do makes the blindest bit of difference!

my 10yo hardly slept at all for the first 15 months (had a bedside cosleeper cot. nothing would keep him asleep for more than 40 minutes, and getting him to sleep took 2 hours, day time sleeps only in a moving pram, would wake up the instant you stopped walking) then we cracked the whole sleep thing (secrets of the Baby Whisperer) and he slept great for a few years, including a lovely 2hr cot nap in the afternoon. moved to a separate bedroom age 2.5 when we were able to move into a house that had another bedroom. mostly fine till about age 6 or so, but he has gradually developed various anxieties which do cause trouble getting to sleep from time to time now, but it's not usually bad.

Co slept with all mine & they sleep fine now & are very secure kids.

1st child was generally sleeping through at 3 months 12am-6pm.
By one, was sleeping 9pm-6am.
Then, as a toddler slept 7pm-7am with a 2 hour nap in the middle until age 3.
Would be never self settle despite attempts to do so as a baby and toddler.

Then, at 7, started to fall asleep later and later until she was regularly up until 2am. Turns out it was autism. Age 11, needs drugs to help her nod off, is up in the night and will not self settle. Can take up to 3 hours to get her to sleep.

2nd child didn't sleep through until 20 months (bf). But would then sleep 7-7 with a 2 hour daytime nap until 2nd birthday.

Started the daytime nap again during nursery year.

Will still sleep through aged 10 but can take an hour to settle (won't self settle - also autistic). If you leave him, he'll have a 1-4 hour long tantrum. Now going to bed between 9-10pm.

My youngest is 10 now. He Coslept / breastfed during the night until he was 2 (and I decided enough was enough). Daytime naps only in the buggy but reliably so on the afternoon school run.
Now goes off to bed himself ( quite late I guess as has older siblings) reads then falls asleep. Usually wakes 7.30ish.

What problems are you having OP?

Just turned 11, brilliant sleeper as a baby. He hated being out of routine.

Now he's a bit more relaxed over his routine although he still loves his sleep. If by 9pm we haven't told him to go to bed he's taking himself off. He's been struggling with the heat so he hasn't been getting enough sleep, now it's cooled down I know he'll catch up.

We never co slept, he hated it. He outgrew his Moses basket when he was 4 months so we had to put him in his room in his cot (bit nerve wracking at first but he was fine).

Dreadful sleeper. Awful to get her to settle. Whinged loads in general. Could scream her lungs out as if we were murdering her.
Still ont take a nap during the day. Awake until 11pm, later during lockdown. Wakes 8am. Never had a lie in.
Although, now she’s older she goes down to make her own breakfast and I can have a lie in.
Dd9 slept lovely. Had naps throughout the day and sleeps through great even now. She was still having two naps aged 2. One small one in the morning and a longer one in the afternoon. Bed at 8pm.

Breast fed, really struggled to get to sleep, coslept for years. Now sleeps all night, wakes between 7 and 8am. Still prefers someone to lay with her while she falls asleep.

As a baby DS was always able to go to sleep when I put him down, no fuss or bother. He Then woke every 2 hours till he was about a year old, breast fed.
He then wet the bed every night till he was 5 and one day he just stopped.
No he puts himself to bed at about 8.45 every night but I have to make sure he isn’t reading still at 9.45. Usually up by 7.30am. He is a happy, intelligent boy.

She was a really light sleeper and would constantly wake up if we moved so we put her into the room next door at 5 months. She used to take ages to sette and rarely napped during the day once she got to about one.

She is a great sleeper now as is her brother who is nearly 7, however he was the worst slerper as a baby.

Not great at all.

Woke at least 3 or 4 times a night and didn't sleep through reliably till 2.5 years. Was still waking in the night 2 or 3 time's a year when aged 5!

Complete lazybones now, sleeps from 10pm till 9am most days, never wakes unless ill

9 year old here, horrendous sleeper as a baby, up multiple times every single night until 2, screaming, crying, the whole shebang.

Has slept like an absolute dream consistently since going to school. I have been to him in the night for genuine reasons about 5 times in 5 years - there is hope!!

My dd was a nightmare sleeper. Couldn't settle unless breastfed to sleep, then would only sleep an hour or 2 max before waking up with colic-like screaming. Did this until around 18 months. Only slept during the day in a moving car or buggy. She did have various allergies and severe eczema. I remember going back to work when she was a year, and some days going to work on 1/2 hours sleep. After 18 months she calmed down but was dependent on an adult being there to soothe her to sleep, no amount of gradual retreat etc helped. By 3 she was settling ok and mostly sleeping through.
Now 10, she's a great sleeper. 10 hours a night. No issues whatsoever.

Another twin owner. Both shite at napping and would only sleep in the car or buggy. Own room (shared) at 6 months and only recently got their own rooms.

Dd2 dream at night. She slept through from 4 months very consistently but a fairly early waker - 5.30ish typically. Today she deigned to join us at around 9. Sleeps like a corpse and it's not unknown for one of the 3 of us to check she's still alive. Needs a reasonable chunk of sleep or gets snarky

Dd1 much trickier and suffered with wind. Went through the night at about 1. Also an early riser. Very wiggly. Now still usually the first up, needs less than her sister, easily disturbed. She really misses her sister and her sleep has been rough since she went into her own room.

Interesting, thanks all.

Have a happy baby but very attached, especially since lockdown. Dh can play with him and hold him but at night if he doesn't see me, he's very upset. We kept him in our room as it felt like a waste of time moving him to his own room at 6 months as he still wakes for feeds a few times a night and doesn't sleep in his bigger cot. We moved his bigger cot into our room, but no way will he sleep in it. We just bedshare now! Shake he couldn't stay longer in the next to me
Sometimes I can move him in at one point, but often not.

My plan is to start trying at around a year (November) as there is another sleep regression to get through first. My main worry is we're doing something wrong by him and will make it harder for him to sleep without us when he's older. It seems cruel to suddenly move him out when we're 'done'.

• shame

Never slept as a baby. Even as a new born, naps during the day were for 40 minutes. I remember once he slept for 2 hours and we didn’t know what to do with ourselves!

We co-slept and things got much much better. Sssshhh, don’t tell. He’s 11 and fast asleep next to me now.

Great sleeper from the start still a great sleeper now. 12 year old less so as in early rising. Now csnt get him to bed cant wake him up

I co slept with both my kids then mix of both after 6months. The second one always came back into my room in the middle if the night once he could jump out of bed.
Never left them alone to scream I couldn't bear it.
They are very secure kids (age 8 & 10 now) - go to sleep when they are tired & sleep through. Easy going kids. Not scared of much.
Keep at it op you will get there!
And their very small days go by in a flash. Sniff their heads & cuddle them lots