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When is not standing a sign of a more serious problem?

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GeckoPerson · 28/06/2020 19:10

My daughter is 16 months old and is not walking or talking, but I'm more worried about the walking just now. She was a month prem and I had placental problems during my pregnancy. She crawled at 7.5 months and started cruising at 10 months, but has just stopped there. I think the problem is balance.

She walks normally when she cruises, but swings her hips, leans forward and generally funny walks when we hold her hands. It's only in the last month that she has walked at all with us holding both her hands, prior to that she would just bend her knees and refuse. She cannot walk if just one hand is held, she swings around the held side and falls down. She cannot stand unsupported though she does try. She won't walk against a push along walker. The best she's stood was literally 2 seconds in the bath, distracted by a toy.

She is otherwise a real livewire. She scrambles over things, climbs up me onto the furniture, crawls up the stairs with no bother. She is energetic and happy. There is no sign of a limp of a weak side. She babbles away and follows some directions (but not many).

I've been looking online about walking today and found that 97% of babies are walking by now, and she wasn't slow on her other milestones. I have also come across ataxic cerebral palsy and I'm worried it might fit what I'm seeing.

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OTheHumanity · 28/06/2020 19:18

NC as outing.

DS walked at 18 months.

I walked at 27 months.

Definitely no cerebral palsy...

Your DD is still within the ‘normal’ window for starting walking per routine assessments - I believe it’s up to 18 months?

BadAlice · 28/06/2020 19:19

Sounds similar to my son. He crawled early-ish, cruised from about 9 months, and could stand holding on to things really early but point blank refused to even consider walking. He’d just sit down if you held his hands. He never really stood unaided until he was walking. He seemed really unsteady on his feet. One day when he was 16 (closer to 17) months we took him to the park when it was wet and he didn’t like the feeling of cold muddy hands so would hold my hand and walk. Within a week he was walking. It’s like he realised it wasn’t so terrible after all and just got on with it! He’s now 21 months and running and can walk backwards so seems to have caught up just fine!

employeewoes · 28/06/2020 19:20

DS walked at 20 months, DD at 15 months. No issues with either of them. If she can sit, crawl and cruise there's very very very likely nothing wrong. I was told to see the Dr if he wasn't walking by 22 months

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GeckoPerson · 28/06/2020 19:28

Thank you for the reassurance all!

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SE13Mummy · 29/06/2020 02:34

At 12 months DD2 couldn't sit independently. At 15 months she had just about started to crawl and managed to pull herself up on something. No cruising, that didn't happen for another couple of months. She stood for the first time at 18 months and started walking at 19 months.

She's now 11 years old and we know she's hypermobile but apart from needing to exercise to strengthen particular muscles and tiring more easily than her peers do at some things, she's a happy, healthy child. No-one would ever guess that she was declared 'backwards in all areas' by a paediatrician at 15 months.

ChinWhiskers · 29/06/2020 04:08

My dc walked at 2. Dh and i were late walkers. Not premie. All fine but was v worried at the time. Talk to your gp.

MyNameIsAlexDrake · 29/06/2020 04:25

My now 8 year old was not premature but a few months late on every milestone rolling, crawling, cruising. It was 19 months before he decided to walk independently (he was a speedy cruiser / crawler for a few months before that). When he decided to walk that was it, no issues he just did it. Same for toilet training, no potty, stayed in nappies until 3 1/2 then suddenly dry night and day. Some just really just want to do things on their own terms Smile

custardbear · 29/06/2020 04:31

My friends child didn't even stand or cruise til 22 months and he's now mid teens and perfectly normal

Userzzz · 29/06/2020 04:57

My DD started walking at 14 months. I think 16 is still within the normal range.

DianaT1969 · 29/06/2020 05:13

Does she have older siblings getting things for her? A friend's child had that and the boy didn't see a need to walk - everything was brought to him.

Snigletted · 29/06/2020 05:47

If you're worried there might be a medical cause, then take her to the doctor. No amount of "my child walked at [much later]" is going to reassure you. Ask for a physio referral. It's much easier to start early than too late.

At the very least, it will be a record if at [much later] she still isn't walking or you have other concerns.

I genuinely don't remember about following instructions at that age. But balance etc, has she had a hearing test?

Jent13c · 29/06/2020 06:05

If It were me i would be having a chat with a health visitor however for my child confidence was the major issue. He is now 3 and has never done anything before it was perfected, so never babbled until 9 months then just started talking, cruised but never stood independently until 13 months when he started walking. Now that hes able to discuss his emotions and how he feels he never wants to try anything and either says it's to hard or tries to make a joke of trying anything new.

Wotrewelookinat · 29/06/2020 11:01

DD1 walked at 18 months, she just much preferred to sit in one place and play with toys and books, and when we helped her stand up before this age she would mostly just point her toes and not take any weight on her legs.

She’s 17 now and a very athletic teenager!

mindutopia · 29/06/2020 11:40

That all sounds really normal to me. I am almost certain that 97% of babies are not walking by 16 months. My first walked at 15 months, but didn't stand independently at all until she was walking. My 2nd didn't walk til 17 months, despite having started crawling at 5 months. My close friend's baby didn't walk until around 18-19 months.

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