Has anyone accidentally got pregnant, been ambivalent about it, then miscarried and desperately wanted to try again?

[AncientandPregnant]

I just wondered if this is a normal reaction.

I accidentally got pregnant. DH and I were quite horrified at first. We have three kids and I am 41. Then we came round to the idea and we started to plan and even feel excited. But the baby died last week and I am awaiting a D&C.

I am suddenly obsessed with trying again. These are crazy thoughts as I never ever thought I’d want another child. Is this a hormonal reaction that will fade with time? Has anyone else experienced this?

Yes, me.

Accidental fourth pregnancy. Discussed termination and then had a miscarriage.

Nearly destroyed me.

Two months later I was pregnant again, with a planned baby

That sounds so similar to my situation @coffeeandgin26. We also considered termination but couldn’t go through with it, then got excited, now I’m so sad.

Do you mind me asking how old you were when you had your 4th? My age makes me worry if just miscarry again and again.

Happened to me too.

Fell pregnant last September and I was devastated. I’d been adamant that we were having no more children, stopping at 2 and that I was too old at almost 40. I miscarried a week later.

Suddenly, Desperately wanted another and fell pregnant in December with this much wanted baby (with 18 years between this one and the eldest!).

Yes I did too although I was a bit younger at 34. Already had two boys and wasn't sure about a third. Like pp I was pregnant again very quickly and she is now 16. I don't know if the desperation to get pregnant again would have faded or perhaps it showed me that I really did want another.

Yes my first. Was a complete accident, miscarried just as I was coming round to the idea then suddenly realised how much I wanted it.
I had another loss, then DS and havent regretted it for a second

Yes I know some people this has a happened to. Probably is hormonal but none have regretted then going on to have a planed pregnancy after

Yes, no children as we had decided to wait a few years. Found out I was pregnant at start of January this year, MC'd at end of January and it's all I can think about now!

I didn't quite accidentally get pregnant but it happened much more quickly than I was expecting and it took the wind out of my sails. My DP had no DC's and I already had 3.... However, at about 6 weeks it all came to nothing. As it had happened so early, I wasn't devastated but disappointed. I realised I felt much more positive about the pregnancy than I had first thought and very happy when we conceived again about 4 months later. I was 42 and all went well. Sorry for everyone that's had sad times.

Yes - and I was a few years older than you OP. Had booked a termination and cancelled at the last minute. No heartbeat at 12 week scan and then had a D&C. Went on to have a healthy baby 12 months later. Stay strong. You will get through it.

Thanks so much to you all for sharing your experience. It seems quite a common reaction. I guess I have to get through the D&C and the next couple of months and then decide.

Yes. Accidental pregnancy, didn't want more kids. Was on the oh fuck side of ambivalent. Miscarriage about a week later. Relief followed by sadness. Decided to try. Got pregnant, felt oh fuck again. Decided we didn't want more kids, planned abortion. Couldn't go through with it. Have the most amazing DD.

Discovered I was pregnant, not planned after a pill failure 13 years of taking it too. I was 33, been together 12 years both shocked but came around to the idea after discussing options including termination. All was well until I had a big bleed at work and confirmed miscarriage a week later. Had a d&c on Christmas Eve. Went from not planning kids to bring all I wanted, we started actively trying and Dc1 was born the following November. 5 years later we have 4 kids.