@rosecake
He was very excited when he got onto the ward with all these bags of things! He is my daughters stepdad and he has no girls himself.
He was so excited with himself and was texting all the way to the hospital about the cute nightdress he had picked her up and slippers etc and some girly things.
I was sat there trying not to cry at the situation and it honestly cheered me at his texts. It was like listening to a child tell their friends what they got for Christmas.
He then picked up food as we had arrived at one hospital and been transferred to a bigger miles away.
So it’s ‘bedtime’ on the ward - he walks, big grin on his face- I swear he was bouncing as he was walking. The nurses actually came into our little ward bay to see as he was telling them he had got it all by himself! Ffs
He came in with some flowers for her, grapes and a card! Was told the flowers weren’t allowed on the ward! He had a take away back of Chinese food for me and her. Which he had gone to the one where we live and the hospital was 30 miles away! But he was laying it all out, saying to my little girl - I picked your favourites etc and I got you wet wipes as she can’t stand dirt.
Then he goes into the ‘bags’
We had 2 toothbrushes and mouthwash, forgot toothpaste, a man’s fine toothed comb. Both me and my little girl have thick nearly waist length hair! Pink, smelly body wash and conditioner, a man’s deodorant.
Socks for my daughter childs size 13 - black men’s size 13. He kept saying I really struggled to find them in her size. Men’s black fluffy isa slippers, ladies size 10-12 knickers - the upto the chest belly warmers, Selection of different sized lady products as he said all girls and women need them.
Then he told her to close her eyes as he had managed to find a pink girly sparkly nightie and he had hunted for it and made the shop assistant look in the back for one in her ‘size’. Told us that he kept telling it had to be that one as he needed to get that one so she felt girly.
He pulled it out of the bag and held it up, massive, proud grin on his face. I was in hysterics by this time and so were the nurses and HCA’s as he had gathered a crowd! I didn’t have the heart at that point to tell him the sizes where wrong. Told him it was the way he was acting.
Then he gave me my ‘bag‘ of clothes and told me to get it out and look as he wanted to see I liked it.
It was a shortie pj t-shirt, the ones you mix and match with shorts of pj bottoms, I asked where are the bottoms and he pulls out these tiny lacy things and told me he remembered I didn’t like knicker lines under dresses! So he got the thing to go under my ‘nightie’
After the bad news I had received earlier it was nice to laugh at how terribly wrong it had gone. But he was so excited about doing it for. As we were only dating then and I generally kept him from my kids and hospitals and it was the first time I hadn’t managed to pre arrange hospital stuff.
Only thing was my daughter then saw it as a routine due to her autism. When she went into hospital my now husband would need to bring the same Chinese food and yellow flowers. As that’s what makes you better!
I ended up wearing a children’s hospital gown!
The last time I was rushed in with her he brought his boxers shorts and no top. Told me it was hot and I just sleep in my bra! Erm it’s a hospital