I miss my friend

[Watermelonbaby]

wasn't sure where to post this but needed to unload.
Back in November I lost a lovely friend of mine to cancer. (She was just 35) It was very quick, just 9 weeks from diagnosis. We were friends through our children at school but spoke most days and went on a few social occasions. So we weren't life long friends or best friends but she was an amazing human. You know just a genuinely pure human being.
I miss her and think about her everyday. I obviously feel devastated for her husband and her lovely children and try to talk to them often but there just isn't a day goes by that I don't think about her and don't miss her terribly. I don't hugely know my reason for posting this, I used to send her messages, still talking to her but then i realised they were being received by her mum and that would be too upsetting for her. Those of you who have lost a friend do you do things in memory of them often or did you speak to someone to help you get through?
Thanks for reading if you have

I also lost a very close friend to cancer earlier this year. Older than your friend, but still far too young to die.

I think of her every day. She also was one of life's truly beautiful people, inside and out. I miss her dreadfully but have wonderful memories of her and the times we spent together and a group of friends that can share our grief together.

Do you have any mutual friends that you can talk about her with?

Hi OP, so sorry to hear about your lovely friend.
I lost one of mine just over 2 years ago very suddenly, it does take a lot of time to get through the grief. I still think about him regularly, but it’s not all-consuming like it was in the first year, or as painful. I did something for charity around the first anniversary - it was something he used to do every year and it was the first time he wasn’t there to do it so it was really emotional, plus it was a massive physical challenge for me as I’d never done it before. It felt good to achieve it and I know he’d have been proud of me.
I never sent the messages, but I did talk about him with other mutual friends who were grieving hard too, and even talked to him directly in my own head. Time really is the only thing that makes a difference though.

Hi @Watermelonbaby, I lost a friend to cancer coming up 3 years ago.’I still think about her every day. I only knew her about 3 years, but she was fantastic. I’ve found grieving as a friend difficult at times. I’m not a particularly long-standing friend, not family, not her husband or motherless 8 year old.... but I did see her most days, she was funny, loyal and totally had my back and I miss her.

I lost a friend at 29 to a rare disease. I went to her grave recently to tell her I was pregnant. I don't go hugely often, but I do think about her extremely often, we grew up together in the town I am back in and am going to raise my baby in, and memories are everywhere. Which I love, as it keeps her close. It's been over 2 years, and it's always going to be hard but I hope in time you can find comfort in remembering the best memories and in the good things she left behind. May your friend's memory be a blessing

We used to advise schools to have little memory books for children that had lost someone so that they could be allowed out of lessons to the pastoral care space, open a drawer and write in their book their thoughts or share a success or worry maybe keeping a book to ‘talk’ to yourfriend in might bring some comfort?