Feeling really disheartened about online dating

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I know it’s only been a few weeks but I’ve not been contacted by one guy I’m interested in. The majority of them just say ‘hi’ which I know they’re probably doing to most of the women on there without reading their profiles.

I don’t have ridiculously high standards. I’m looking for someone who can drive, has his own home and doesn’t smoke. I’m not looking for a one night stand or marriage. I just want someone to enjoy time with and see where it goes. I’m average looking but scrub up okay and hoping for someone else the same.

I contacted one guy I was interested in, we flirted for a week and made plans to meet up then he cancelled because he’d started seeing someone else.

I only have two single friends and they both gave up on online dating after six months and have resigned themselves to being single forever. I’ve been using plenty of fish because I heard there’s more people on there. Someone suggested eharmony but others have said it’s not worth the money. How long did you use online dating for before meeting anyone?

I suspect I might be really quite fat by MN standards :) Have hope, you only need one! It was nice to be having rumpy pumpy again, I missed it, but didn't want to get it from an idiot!

At least OLD gives you a hit of a chance at weeding before actualy meeting. In my younger years, you had to actually go through lots of real life shit experiences until finding one good enough to date.

I've been on Match and not been impressed. Seem to get more attention /conversation on bumble but obvs with lockdown nothing really goes anywhere

I had 3 years of just being ‘me’ after separating from husband. Met loads of new friends through mutual hobby all over the country so had fun Travelling around the Uk.

Then one of these new friends who was also post separation decided it was High time we got back in the game and one ‘tipsy’ night we put our profiles on POF.

I had never dated as my ex was A school friend so was an interesting experience and I admit at the start I found it hard to filter the numpties who just wanted no commitment fun, didn’t want to actually go out, do actual relationship stuff like meet family / friends .

By 6 months in I had enough and my self esteem kicked in and the next person who messaged I said straight away we are going on a proper date Or I’m not interested . 2 days later we went to Tower of London, cocktails and Xmas lights. We chatted all day and midway we booked our next date tickets to Bleinham lights. Xmas day he met my folks and roll on to today we have 2 beautiful girls and we still say best message we ever sent.

Don’t give up .. it worth it I promise

I have met them all, just not literally.
One just this evening, seemed interesting form his bio...2 short messages later and he wanted to talk on the phone already and gave his number.
Recently burnt by that one, as broke my rules and agreed to speak within a few messages. 4 long phone calls after four days and he disappeared. What is wrong with all these men?

I share your woes. I was chatting to a guy, seemed to be going really well... And he suddenly drops of the face of the earth! If you're not interested then fine, but have the courtesy to tell me so I'm not left wondering!

I'm lonely for the first time in my life

I’ve heard of two people who got married to people they met on Guardian Soulmates

I’m getting married next week to some guy off Tinder three years in and expecting our first baby in Feb.

Did meet a few odd ones but with STBDH I just knew- met up for a lunchtime pint and it immediately felt like meeting an old friend (with lovely eyes and a kind smile)

We both have kids- mine was 2 when I met him.

Mid forties. Met my (extremely gorgeous) DH on tinder after c 4 years of OD. I was his 3rd date, lucky bugger

Engaged after 3 months, married after 6 months, moved to the countryside and bought a house and two dogs and we are madly in love nearly three years later. He is the man of my dreams.

Hang in there !

Is Bumble a free site then? I’m on Match and Telegraph Dating. I had hoped that by paying for a dating app l might find er...a better quality of man. Or at least one who had a job FFS!

I’m trying to throw myself of the ledge so to speak and ask a man I’ve been in contact with since the beginning of lockdown out for a walk. Met on tinder.
I’m very nervous about asking. I’ve written the message 6 times already today and hastily deleted it. Why can’t these things be easy!

I have two friends married to men whom they met on EHarmony. They all seem very happy.
I think that there is a very comprehensive questionnaire to fill in before you join so that they can find possible matches easily.
No doubt it costs money, but that at least should deter useless losers.

I met my DP on Bumble, within a few days of signing up.

Totally blindsided me as I'd heard so, so many OLD horror stories. But he's incredible. I got very lucky (so did he ).