Neighbour called police

[ToStressedToSleep]

Just had police call round as neighbour reported domestic dispute. It was my autistic child having a meltdown. I’m so embarrassed. It’s stressful enough having to deal with it without having the police turn up. I’m so exhausted but can’t sleep. They said they will have to put in a safe guarding thing, but I don’t know what that means. Anyone have experience with this?

Do you mean a safeguarding referral? If yes, they will contact Children’s Services who will likely contact you for a brief chat. It is really nothing to worry about and may well provide you with some extra support.

Yeah, safeguarding referral. Would be good if we actually did get extra support but experience tells me it never actually materialises.

I don’t know why the police were called tonight, I didn’t think he was any louder than he usually is.

hot weather, people have windows open. sound carries.

Is he calm now? Hope you're okay. Sounds hard.

Yeah he actually had calmed down about 20 minutes before the police arrived, we were just finally getting bed.

Really sorry to hear this happened. It's my worst nightmare, I always worry that this will happen to us. It's worse at the minute because were home all day every day. I struggle to even open the windows in the house because I try to contain the noise as best I can.

I hope you e managed to get some sleep now

I hope it is a call for help and that this time something WILL materialize from it. It must have been scary for you, and also for your neighbor. If someone called the police, it must have been disturbing to hear.

@Wheresthebiffer2

hot weather, people have windows open. sound carries.

Is he calm now? Hope you're okay. Sounds hard.

What a nice thing to say. Plus simple to the point.

Worried neighbour is a good thing. And You have nothing to worry or embarrassed about.
My ds used to have quite severe meltdowns. Neighbour told me once they thought about reporting, but they didn't since they knew my dc's condition, just came around to see we are ok instead. Having a good relationships with neighbours do help.

Out of interest did the police tell you which neighbour?

Out of interest did the police tell you which neighbour?

I hope not.

Oh poor you. The police will be legally obliged to make a referral, but social services will not be in the slightest bit worried. (They have to make a referral as part of the attempt to stop the sort of between agencies failures of communication that led to no-one picking up on the seriousness of cases like Victoria Climbie - but 99 times out of a hundred the upshot is "nothing to worry about here" as is clearly the case for you).

I hope you and your son are feeling better today - the heat can't be helping if he's prone to meltdowns when things get overwhelming.

Thanks everyone, I’m feeling much better today. They didn’t say which neighbour it was, I did ask them they said they couldn’t say. They did tell me that the report was that ‘a child in distress with no adult voices’ I guess they couldn’t hear me as I was trying to make my voice as soothing as possible to try and calm him down.