I’m starting to feel like I’m going mad.
About 9/10 months ago had a big argument over pretty much a non issue basically quite a long time ago a relative had got dsis an iPad and the same relative said to my dm she wanted to get one for me too but couldn’t afford 2 so would pay half if dm paid the rest (dm didn’t want to but for some reason couldn’t say no and begrudgingly got another despite me saying it was ok I could do without because I knew it was causing a problem and I didn’t want the drama )
Anyway it was ages ago (years !) and my dc used my one till it finally broke about 2 years ago and we replaced it (which meant a diff charger - this is relevant) . Dsis One still works.
Last year we were all together round at dm and dsis realised she didnt have her charger and the battery was going and she was staying there as wanted to use it that night. Dm immediately shouted at me she had to have my charger but I said I don’t think I have that type anymore and if I do it’s at home and I have no idea where I was told ‘go home now then and find it’
She seemed genuinely pissed off that I didn’t actually have it with me ( who on earth carries round a selection of old chargers ??? But apparently that shows how disorganised I am)
I said no (it was a boiling day and I didn’t want a long journey) dm got very angry and demanded again i go and find it for dsis (who was upset and panicking and feeding dm anger) I said no but once I’m home later I will have a look and if I do find it I’ll let you know she said ‘it’s mine anyway I paid towards it’
I explained how I didn’t think I had it anymore as we had got an new one when it broke and I don’t usually keep old chargers but I would look.
Dsis then got more upset and said she would have to go to try and buy one. I offered to look after her dc while she went as the dc were all playing but she said no and took her dc who was screaming as didn’t want to stop playing
. When she left dm launched into an attack on me that I was selfish to not have at least babysat but she had just heard me offer - she was in the same room !!!!! So it was also my fault that dsis dc upset .
Dsis put a plea on fb and dm then had 2 neighbours bring round chargers to see if they would work which she was gushing over how kind they were and then shut the door and told me ‘that’s how real adults behave’
This whole ridiculous saga has been brought up again today - referred to as my ‘bad behaviour and poor treatment of dsis’ and how it’s an example of me being selfish and not sharing. I’m an adult ffs and I feel like I’m being spoken to like a child when I’d done nothing wrong at all ?
The conversation today had started over dm wanting me to give something to her for dsis that I apparently no longer need and when I said no this incident was brought up.
It seems such a stupid thing in the first place and now again today to have to even discuss such stupidity I don’t know I feel like it’s just mad. I can’t be bothered with the games anymore