How do we introduce a person in to our household?

[JumpingJoey]

What are rules? Is it a complete no-go? My daughter’s boyfriend is prepared to move households permanently to ours. Does he self isolate in our spare room (with en-suite) for 7 or 14 days? Can we get a test for him after a few days? What’s the incubation period? His large family are going back to work and so the best time for him to come here would be in the next few days.

Dd and him used to see each other nearly every day and have only seen each other 4 times at a distance. We run our own business so can’t afford to be sick.

Dd is getting more depressed. We have enough room and are happy feeding him and him living with us. They are 19 and 20.

Is there anyway to do this?

Also, what are infection rates like where you live?

Your husband is vulnerable.
The bf needs to go out to college.
Your dd s friends are covid positive.
You seem to be moving the boyfriend in to fix your dd mental health.
Is there another way?
Move dd in with boyfriend family?
And she socially distance visits you?
Is the bf going to still see his family? How?
This could go on a long time.
Are you really offering to cater wash clothes feed another adult for free? What will ground rules be?

Could DD move in with him if your DH is vulnerable?

No college is literally just for one day to do an exam then he’s free until September.
It’s a serious relationship between them of 3 years. And yes her mental health is suffering from not being with him. That’s the reason we are even considering it.

Yes it’s going to be a change to have him here for a while. He’s a lovely man and he has offered to do lots of gardening and house jobs so a plus there! And we will feed him for free. He’s stayed with us for weeks pre-Covid as her sibling was ill and we were in hospital so he looked after the house and animals. This is another factor to consider - Dds sibling. Sibling is still poorly but not vulnerable. Sibling gets on well with Dd more when boyfriend is here!

Dd can’t move in with him as she doesn’t want to shield from us and also he has many siblings that have all come back home to isolate so his house has less space for extras. I have chatted with his mum and I think she is ok with being away from him. Of course we will drive him over so he can see her from a socially appropriate distance. He’s 20 after all. I suppose when he goes back to College in Mid September that’s going to be the crunch point and he should go back to his parents but hopefully rules will be relaxed by then. Presumably he’d isolate for 7 days all over again?!

Thanks about the phone info - talk about me being paranoid!!

Just to reiterate Dd and her boyfriend are so paranoid about giving bugs to Dh they were about 5m apart when they have met in a field . Their friends, who took the Micky out of their extreme social distancing, have tested positive. However they have not gone anywhere near these friends despite calls from their friends to meet up.

@TickledOnion

Why not just ask him to get tested? Results come back in 48 hours. If it's negative then just move him in.

Because very often people test negative at first even though they have it. It’s why new admissions to hospitals are re-tested over a few days.

MyLittleFish have you any knowledge on how many days he should isolate for then?

If he self isolates for 14 days after his exam and at that point is symptom free then he can move in with you. It takes up to 14 days for any symptoms to develop after potential exposure. I a health care professional. Hope that helps.

If he self isolates for 14 days after his exam and at that point is symptom free then he can move in with you

That would make sense
Then they can spend summer together. Which they probably planned to do.

It still seems concerning about the dependency on him for your dd MH. They both very young to be so interdependent. A big burden on the bf? Hopefully your dd is accessing some online support from professional?

@JumpingJoey

My Dd has just showed me that I and her are now also getting tracked on our iPhones for COVID-19 exposure! Went into settings then privacy then health and it’s there. Strangely Dh hasn’t - big brother is watching this thread!

No you aren't.

A very simple google search will tell you that it is an update to the operating system so that any future apps will work should you choose to download them.

dont it was a joke - that’s why there was a grin emoji!

If your husband is vulnerable, are you and your daughter staying home?
Will your daughter's BF going to college put your husband at risk if he comes to live with you?

@TJ17 lighten up and calm yourself.

It’s human nature to want to be close in all ways to someone you love and have missed a great deal over the past few months.

And lots of us have missed the odd contraceptive pill as it no longer seemed important in the bigger picture with not being sexually active etc.
Im just being honest, not trying to piss anyone off so calm your jets.

OP surely a week in isolation, if he has no symptoms and nobody in his previous household had symptoms would be enough?

Just really don't see the relevance lol 🤷🏼‍♀️ but ok....

Liz we go out to walk the dog in the fields, avoiding people. And we do a once a week click and collect. Then spray the shopping! Dh works on his own at his office and I go in occasionally. No one else goes in the office. My children haven’t seen any of their friends in real life.

@JumpingJoey
It sounds like adding him to your household won't significantly increase the risk to your husband then, assuming the BF does the same and avoids people after he's self-isolated for 14 days after his visit to college and then moves in

This is a really hard time for a lot of people in terms of mental health.
It sounds like you've thought it all through so if it helps your daughter and isn't risking your husband's health then I'd say go for it
(not that you need my permission of course )