Relationship split. Worried about 2 seperate school runs September.

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I'll have kids at 3 different schools.

Eldest is fine. 15 walks himself.

But then I have Yr 7 at different High school to DS1 and primary 7 year old.

Plan was for DP and I to walk a smaller child each. Neither of us drive.

Now he's moving to his mums property a good 5 miles away.

How am I going to drop off and collect them both.

DD can't walk on her own, she's a very young 11 and won't even go shops on her own.

Am panicking

So he wouldn't do it even if he hadn't moved... It was never a viable plan, then, was it?

Can your 11 year old not go to her older dc school.

Thiismytime... Yes he wouod have becauseni would have been here to get him up

If hes 5 miles away he wont get up himself early enough tongetbhere for 8am every weekday

Weve already accepted the place now. Theres no place as DS school for her.

Walk youngest into breakfast club and hop on a bus to dd's school?

What's the distance between home and schools?

Are you perhaps worrying too much about your 11yo walking to school alone because of what happened to you? That would be totally normal, i really empathise with you and I can totally understand your worries about the area. However she is going to have to be out in the big old world sometime.

Could you do the walk in with her over the holidays to help her gain confidence? Its very unlikely she would be walking alone - if walkable there will be lots of other kids doing the same route at the same time of day. And she may even make new friends at school who live locally after a few weeks.

Are there any children from her primary school that are also going to that secondary school, could they meet up on route?

Or is there a bus she could take instead? Could she cycle the route (quicker?)

Otherwise Dad will just have to get up.

She will soon be wanting to walk on her own anyway at that age? I think around 9 I started walking with friends to school? No way at 11 would mum have been allowed near the school gates!😂

What does "buses on rainy days" mean? If there's a bus route she doesn't have to walk at all. What am I missing?!

Can you drop youngest at a friend he already has to go to school for a week or so. Chances are in a few days your daughter will make new friends who catch the same bus/walk the same way.

Indont wnat herbgetting public transport alone

Dobt villify me for not want my 11 year old to be out alone.

I appreciate that may not be your preference but im not sone crazy person for wanting to still takenher to school innyear 7, especially when we had the discussion and she was very firm in wanting the same thing.

If that changes we will reasses but for now thats whatbwe both want so please replspect that and dobt make me feel bad for it when im not in a good place anyways

Please exciluse my typing. Im very tired and have dyslexia.

Is there anyone that can take your youngest to school.

What time does your 11 year old finish school.

Well you will have to pay for before and after school club for your youngest child then.

y7 can wait at school. either outside school, just inside gate or somewhere safe if sen. It may be different with covid though.

Sounds like you are projecting your own issues. I find it hard to believe a Year 7 child will not be laughed at by their peers from having mummy walk them to and from school.

I knew my eldest had to get 2 buses to go to the school of his choice, and a half decent one. We practiced the route and we went through possible other buses. He has his mobile and he had to check in regularly. I used to hover like mad by the window every day, worrying. After a couple of months I accepted that he is fine and there are a lot of others on the bus - there is no school bus which I wouldn't like anyway, horrible things usually. You have to accept they do need to do these things or they will never learn independance.

How far is it to her school?

I don't understand why you are adamant that she needs to be taken to school, and have thought that way for a while, but have never learned to drive particularly now that you have another child.

I’m sorry you had that experience at 12. It must have been terrifying 💐