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How to help my son (aged 5) school report

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sitckmansladylove · 20/06/2020 09:39

I received my sons (reception) report this week. His teacher was only taught him from Christmas until lock down but I understand she would have had a handover from the previous teacher. Parents Evening first teacher blew him out of the water. He was top of the class but can be reluctant to put up his hand. When he did he always shared good ideas and answered correctly etc.

Report comes along and the section wellbeing didn't get ticked at all. He needs to work on speaking out in class. His speech is fantastic but that box didn't get ticked. All academic standards were met. Maths all outstanding. What I am worried about is that they think something is wrong with him not speaking out. To add, myself and dh were very shy at school but grew out of it. DS is really funny and a great talker and imagination is amazing (like I presume all 5 year olds). My other child a year older got really positive comments but I feel the younger is brighter (picked up phonics and sight words far quicker).

I don't want to worry or go into the school. I just want to help my son improve?

I spoke to him and he said he didn't like school. He loved pre school. For example he likes to choose his own clothes at home and when we were in school he used to get upset that the uniform was boring Confused. Maybe I will have a rebel on my hands in years to come. Sorry for rambling.

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sitckmansladylove · 20/06/2020 09:40

Has (not was)

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sitckmansladylove · 20/06/2020 09:44

He is a really easy child and very affectionate. So I don't want to change him really. Even as a small baby you wouldn't know he was there once he had toys or amusement with us. I think I am over thinking all of this HmmConfused

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TeenPlusTwenties · 20/06/2020 09:47

I think you are over thinking. Smile

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MattBerrysHair · 20/06/2020 09:52

He's totally fine! Some people are less gregarious than others and that's totally acceptable. Pushing him to put himself out there more may cause anxiety as it goes against his nature.

Frogscotch7 · 20/06/2020 09:53

The most concerning thing there is that he says he doesn’t like school. I’d want to know exactly why and see if you can’t address what he doesn’t like and draw his attention to what he does like so that he’s looking forward to going back after summer. Not that it’s unusual to dislike school but that would be my biggest area to address.

sitckmansladylove · 20/06/2020 09:55

Yes I think it is his nature. Also he likes to get to know people before he is 'himself'.. every one of my secondary school reports mentions me not speaking out in class 😂 dh is terribly shy even now.

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corythatwas · 20/06/2020 09:55

Yes, you are overthinking it. School reports aren't meant to be paeans of praise: they list things that are going really well and things to work on and make some general observations. Sometimes a teacher will forget to tick a box. Being shy at 5 is normal and most teachers will have seen hundreds of shy 5yos.

Stop comparing the siblings or expect the teacher to recognise exactly how special your youngest is. Enjoy him. Don't project into the future.

sitckmansladylove · 20/06/2020 09:57

frog I gently asked him and he just said 'it's boring' and his best friend went to a different school so he wants to go back to school to be with him. That's really it. We are not in the UK and teaching here is quiet traditional (chalk and talk sort of lessons)

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peajotter · 20/06/2020 09:58

Wait and see. He will have a different teacher next year, and it will all be so different anyway. I wouldn’t overthink it right now, and definitely make sure he doesn’t pick up on your worries.

Has he spoken to many adults during lockdown? Maybe gently encourage him to talk to adults when you meet up with people.

sitckmansladylove · 20/06/2020 09:59

I do enjoy him very much Grin he's a darling. By the way I love all kids. I just think they bring so much happiness to the world and they are all so different.

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sitckmansladylove · 20/06/2020 10:01

pot not really. We only met up with grandparents last week as we stuck to the guidelines as much as we could so he has only been on walks really and waved to neighbours. But I will get him mixing a bit more now it's safer.

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billy1966 · 20/06/2020 10:05

Standing in front of you and reading can be good practice for speaking out.

He sounds like a great boy.

Lots of children aren't excited by the school uniform!

I remember a dear friend of mine telling me years ago that her 5 year old got up for school one morning after about two months going and said "thanks mum for bringing me but I've decided it's not for me and I won't go anymore"....he liked school and didn't have any issues, sometimes they don't adore school, it's just the way some children are.
It doesn't mean they are unhappy though or that anything specific is wrong.

Definitely having him practice reading out loud might improve his overall confidence in projecting his voice.

He's very young.

One other thing comes too mind.
My younger son who really is very bright also didn't bother putting his hand up and it was mentioned.

He told me he knew all the answers and couldn't be bothered!😙

sitckmansladylove · 20/06/2020 10:09

Aren't they just so funny Grin I must use that when I go back to work 'it's not for me anymore'.

I suppose it's all life learning for them.

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