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How to combat broodiness?

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Alpacamabags · 19/06/2020 22:17

Long story, very short!
I know I am extrodanarily lucky. I have a beautiful Ds 5 and dd 3.
They were so, so wanted. All I ever wanted was to be a mum. But then with DS I had horrendous PND. Took until 6 months to bond even though he was the easiest, textbook baby ever.
Had DD to "get" what I'd lost and she was so horrendous. Constantly in pain and discomfort and wouldn't settle (totally not her fault!) only really started to be manageable at 14 months.
Anyway now I am incredibly broody. Not a day goes by where I don't crave those snuggles and that baby smell.
What do people do to combat this? I honestly don't think I want another child. But it seems to be physically hurting!!
Sorry if that doesn't make sense. In short. What do I do when I'm mega broody for a baby but don't want another child??

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Carlotacoffee · 19/06/2020 22:32

Oh hell our minds really fuck with us. It’s just biology. Our body is sending signals to our brain telling us - ‘have another baby you have plenty of eggs!’

My kids were the worst sleepers. I hated being pregnant. Had traumatic births for the last two, had PND after my middle one - swore I’d never had another one.

Then when dd has just turned three I went shopping with a friend and she picked a Moses basket up to buy for some one and I had the biggest twang of broodiness, it shocked me! It was primal

Remind your self how bad you felt. How hard it is. That these kids don’t sleep. That baby smell lasts only a few months then your left with a baby that cries, never sleeps and makes life difficult.

The PND ( fucking bad news)

Walking round feeling like an alien

You’d have to get a new car that holds three child seats.

Holidays are more expensive, some times you can’t book five people in a room

The amount of money on nappies!

Three kids crying at once is a piss take.

The toll on your body

I can go on if you want Grin

Alpacamabags · 19/06/2020 22:40

@carlotacoffee
Thank you 🙌
This is 100% what I need to hear.
Why does our biology do this. 😂 I need and I genuinely mean need to hug, care for and snuggle a baby for a few days and then give it back.
Every day I get a little more life back and yet I still have this constant pang of broodiness!

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Littlebyerockerboo · 19/06/2020 22:40

No advice but I feel you pain Op.

I have to have ivf to conceive due to having no fallopian tubes, but jesus - every month I get OV pain, I want to jump my DP during this time. If I could get pregnant it would probably be one baby after another if I could follow through what my body is begging me for.

Its a horrible way to feel, isn't it?

I also suffered PND and the fog didn't lift for about 1yr 1/2, and he was a simple baby too.

Sometimes I want to run to the nearest clinic to settle my bodys wants, but then I have to try and remember what it was like, and what my current situation is, and would i really want another baby. My life is pretty good as it is! (DS now 6)

No decent advice but youre not alone!

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