Why do people find it so difficult to get their children out of the way?

[ZeldamayXWA]

I am the mother of two small children but I also like to go for a walk in my small hometown without the children sometimes. I went for a walk early to avoid the crowds and strait away I encountered generic middle class, middle aged, mummy and daddy with two small children a similar age to my own boy and girl.

I waited for the parents to move the children as they had obviously seen me standing there waiting for the boys to move so I could get passed. Instead they just started grinning at the little brats and gently trying to encourage them to move when they felt like it. So I was polite and waited for the boys to move, they just got off their bikes and started staring at the field.

It was a narrow area and there was no way I could get passed without the children being moved, Emphasis - they are children, the parents should have the required level of intelligence to move them out of the way. I know I would have been able to get my two children to move for an adult who wanted to get passed.

Does anyone else think it is abnormal for toddlers who can be picked up and moved to have more human rights than an adult who needs to get passed them? I know they were toddlers and the husband screamed at me "They are toddlers you need to wait for them to decide to move"

How is this behaviour acceptable? Also am I losing my mind I was so shocked by these rude parents complete inability to have any authority over their children. Any thoughts?

Relevance of class and age?

Yes many parents will jump to the defence of their poor children. I worked and work with children and wouldn't dream of not explaining how sometimes we have to squeeze a little to let people get past. It's a normal socialising thing. Children learn with time. It's not their fault bless but we'll their self entitled parents'... Definitely. Plenty of examples around and plenty of apologists and blamers of the ones who have to wait for their kids. Like kids scooting into you while parents chat and clearly they see what s happening, mum's with two prams occupying the pavement expecting you to walk in the street. The list is long and incidents not as rare as should be when we're supposed to be a better more enlightened generation of adults/parents
Oh and you'll be lunched if you roll your eyes at them while they have the right to roll your eyes at you :)

Sorry but if it were me I would ignore it - and I am VERY SORRY to say this or feel this way. You are on furlough, we are in a crisis. My company are currently deciding which members of staff we can bring back from furlough or make redundant. Unfortunately the CEO would have a say in this. I would have to think of the bigger picture and my family.

Mums

and

Lynched

Sorry 😂

:)))))

I get that it was annoying... but was it so annoying as to get that wound up? Just breathe it out Op, it's over now.

And stop using passed

Bet you tutted at them, didn't you op? 🙄

U need to learn how to spell

U were trying to get PAST not passed

And it's STRAIGHT not STRAIT

Lou197 - I'm genuinely sorry that you might be in a position where you lose your job. I myself am not on furlough, I'm in the very lucky position of not having to work, I stay at home while my husband chooses to work.

U should use that time to learn how to spell them OP

Also am I losing my mind I was so shocked by these rude parents complete inability to have any authority over their children?

Probably. Next question?

If you're going to correct spelling don't be so awful. We all get annoyed with people's spelling but your tone is vile.

This has surely got to be a wind up 🤷🏻‍♀️

Did it really matter if you had to wait a couple of minutes to get past them? For all you know, the parents or children may have had physical problems which would make it difficult to pick them up.

And the father didn't scream, did he?

You sound a peach OP

Picking up a toddler is now unreasonable behaviour?

It would explain quite a few things...

@Lou197

Sorry but if it were me I would ignore it - and I am VERY SORRY to say this or feel this way. You are on furlough, we are in a crisis. My company are currently deciding which members of staff we can bring back from furlough or make redundant. Unfortunately the CEO would have a say in this. I would have to think of the bigger picture and my family.

Lou was wondering if this response meant for another thread as it would make total sense on one I was reading earlier?

Are you my MIL OP?

They are toddlers you need to wait for them to decide to move

Can't believe people are attacking the OP. That family didn't have the right to block the path for other people.

chooses to work
I doubt he chooses if you don't. I think you need a bigger problem to go with your bad grammar)

Wait for them to decide to move 😂😂😂. He's going to have his hands full with that attitude. I still sometimes need to shooo my 10 year old out of the way if we're stopped, he would be too busy staring off at a bird or duck to notice.

Well I’d have said “oh what lovely children, hello! Now, I’m awfully sorry to interrupt, but would you mind just squeezing over a tiny bit because I’m in a bit of a hurry. Thanks so much, bye and have a lovely day”. Oh thank you so much!

Off you go OP.

How were they being brats? Just by being children? Nasty.

Sounds like you probably deserved to be shouted at. It’s like you think you’re the Queen or something!

So you stood there waiting
Parents grinned at children and tried to get them to move
You still stood there waiting
And then the dad screamed at you?

Feels like we’re missing a bit here OP.