Basically I am disabled and chronically ill and am awaiting surgery. I am very private about it irl and very few people know. But this is my safe space here.
My yr7 dd has recently got back in touch with some friends from primary and their new friends from secondary. 4 of the 7 girls came to ours last weekend and the plan was for some of them to go to one of dds friends from primary this weekend. The other girls met up yesterday and my dd wasn’t invited but she went to another friend’s house with a mutual friend. All ok.
The whole afternoon whilst dd was out, the group called and group messaged dd telling her she shouldn’t come on Saturday, to stay away because I am ill and they don’t want to get it(ie coronavirus), it could spread to them and it would be really really bad. It got pretty nasty and ended up with dd and this other mutual friend explaining my illness to these girls to try to make it stop.
As a result, one of the a ringleaders started sending nasty voice messages in reply and a couple of others were telling dd to just shut up etc. Anyway I contacted the mum of one of the two ring leaders (I don’t even know the other child) plus dds friend’s mum I’ve know for years. The 3 parents then talked to the kids. And this made it still worse.
The ringleader got the other ringleader involved and sent a series of nasty messages this morning to dd demanding to know why she had said this is cyber bullying (dd didn’t and oh the irony). Plus a string of other nasty messages on the original chat from the other ringleader etc.
I’ve dealt with all this ok. I’ve had dds mutual friend and her mum on FaceTime. And I was all ok. Except now my dd has decided to make friends with this second ringleader, who had been a right bitch to her, just because she wants her to get them to stop attacking me. She wants her to help dd get friends again with the other ringleader, who has also been a right bitch to her. And I’m in bits. The weight my 11 yo holds on her shoulders is immense. ðŸ˜