"He's not sleepy yet"

[mylittlesandwich]

DH is driving me mad with this line! We're trying to move DS's bedtime a bit earlier to make life easier when I'm back at work soon. However DH seems to loose all rationale for getting him to sleep. Normally naps are when he's showing sleep queues but bedtime has always been a bit easier than that. If the lights are dimmed and he's getting a cuddle and being rocked he goes off to sleep. DH however wants to wait until he "looks sleepy" which has again resulted in me taking over at midnight because I've had enough of his pussyfooting about and getting him to sleep!

Just a rant, he's driving me up the wall with it!

Just go to bed yourself and leave your DH to it. Especially if you're going to be having earlier starts.

How old is DS? If DH wants to fanny about it then don’t take over and solve the problem he created. You’re making it too easy for him to avoid, if he can’t get him to sleep that’s strictly Not Your Problem and I’d be into the spare room or wherever and off to sleep. Let him deal with it!

He could get him to sleep if he actually tried! DS is almost 7 months. We don't have a bed in any of the spare rooms and DS is still in with us. I usually take over because it's just quicker instead of letting him arse around for even longer. I will have earlier starts when I'm back which is why I'm trying to move things earlier now.
He honestly has a personality transplant at bedtime. All through the day he is a level headed parent and then this nonsense kicks off!

You’re removing the consequences of his faffing. Leave him at it.

I usually take over because it's just quicker

I absolutely get why this is so tempting, but can you see how you are making a rod for your own back? Imagine if your manager did this at work, where would it end

Come back and tell us you left him to it.

Goodness, baby must be bloody exhausted too! Almost 6 month old DS is asleep by 7.30pm most nights, if I miss that window he'll be overtired and so much harder to get to sleep.

Get a fold out bed for a spare room for you to sleep on if he insist on waiting til baby is 'sleepy' or just crack on with putting him to bed yourself

I absolutely hear what you're all saying, honestly I do. I just want to get off to sleep so I take over. I know it needs to stop.

@Missmonkeypenny he naps well during the day so he's not overtired at bedtime, he will go to sleep though if you don't play with him, get him in his sleeping bag and actually try to get him to sleep!

Put earplugs in and go to sleep anyway!