DH is hoovering...

[rainbowsonasunnyday]

So, DH is hoovering the house as I type and I've already hoovered today?!!

Yes he has moved furniture which I moved a few hours ago and cleaned underneath and behind.

That’s called gaslighting

If he uses the phrase 'I've hoovered FOR YOU' then the law states he can be mullered and you won't face charges

He will use this against you OP. Beware. Anytime you ask him to clean. He will remind you of this occasion, this one occasion when he cleaned the house. It was not his fault, he did not know you're had cleaned it already. You did not tell him. He will never clean again because of this one occasion that was never his fault. Ever.

Or he will tell you that you don't like someone else telling you what to do around the house because that is your job. Because you are a woman.

If he uses the phrase 'I've hoovered FOR YOU' then the law states he can be mullered and you won't face charges

Agreed.

Is he sighing whilst he hoovers, so that you know how unreasonable it is that he has, like, done housework?

Go and cook something very messy

And then eat on the sofa leaving as many crumbs as you can

Then go and watch random crap in bed while he carry's on dawdling like a twat

Put your feet up and relax.

If he likes cleaning up after you do to prove some kind of point order him an apron online with his name on it.

Oh well. It's better than having cycling as a hobby.

Let him get on with it - if your bathroom door locks, go and relax in there for a couple of hours with a book.

Come out all pink and clean, smile and say 'That looks lovely, dear' and float off to bed.

Mine does this too and then announces that ‘I’ve done it properly’. Twat.

I hope you are currently making a cake op.
He will expect such praise indeed...

I remember a teenage way I passive-aggressively did the hoovering. When I was trying to enjoy a lie-in on the first day of school holidays, I could hear my mum talking naggingly about housework, as she always did in school holidays. Knowing that she would soon make me do the hoovering, I got up and started hoovering there and then, in my pyjamas. She wailed "that's a horrible way of reacting!".

Have you got a pile of already-ironed stuff?

Go and fetch it right away.

Come out all pink and clean, smile and say 'That looks lovely, dear' and float off to bed.

And ignore the shag he's angling for

So he has form for gaslighting? If it no longer works, he'll find some other way to upset you.

Yes he does but he never ever admits it. He's annoyed now because I'm doing my nails. Keeps asking me what's wrong and acting as though I should be upset. I'm really trying to ignore him and act normal. I really feel like telling him I've spent all day cleaning and hoovering but he will just say he didn't know and I never told him. He's been in the house all day! How can he not know?! The house is spotless!

I am so pissed off!

Gaslight the gaslighter. If he says anything about cleaning just say you did not notice him do it.

I know you are pissed off, but from the outside looking in, it's actually really funny...
I am absolutely rooting for you. He's acting like a three-year-old.
Stay Calm and Varnish On.
Then go for a walk if you can and let him sulk!

Wow a passive aggressive cleaner . Mine can be PA but never resorts to cleaning.

I know it's no fun for you op, but wow I would be goady as f...

@user1471462428 you are a genius! I'm an actually going to say we need to clean the house tomorrow.

I know it probably sounds funny from the outside looking in, I really get it. But I am very upset that he never changes.

@rainbowonasunnyday it doesn't sound funny. It's sad that he can't communicate and resorts to aggravating you into a reaction. I hope you've managed to come to some kind of conclusion this evening. Going forward, if you know he's never going to change, why would you stay?

Is this meant to be a problem? 😅

He won't change. Plan your escape.

@ArthurandJessie gaslighting is a problem

I've got a passive aggressive cleaner Only does it when I've pissed him off not when I'm pissed off for, you know, not fucking cleaning It's all very odd, it's almost like he's trying to prove he's not an arse. By being an arse

Google grey rocking. Don't let him upset you. Really, don't allow it to happen. Just think "crack on then fool".