Anyone else not 'good' at anything?

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I haven't got a chip on my shoulder about it. But I have tried all my life and always ended up distinctively rubbish or very average after trying very hard.

Never been good at anything. I'm piss poor at so many things, despite effort. I'm not down about it, I get my tone might read that I am but I'm not!

I'm good at 'gift of the gab' in getting out of tricky situations. For example, I got caught shop lifting at 17. I had to go back of the store in a small office space and give them my name and address. I didn't lie about those details. And made the security staff feel as if I was the most honest and apologetic person, told them I'd just lost my job from chronic illness and just wanted to feel normal again, and when I'd sweetened them up enough, I pretended to have a fit (they called an ambulance, next day rang me to tell me I was welcome back anytime and they were so so sorry).

I am not 'proud' of it, although I find the calculation impressive. I'm ashamed of that but that and similar events (of a non illegal nature!) are the only things I have to show for myself

Never been good at maths, sports, music, singing, drama. Although I enjoyed most of all that.

Anyone else similar?

laughs Your story both disturbed me and made me laugh.

I'm not good at anything either. My SIL sends me photos of her "projects" and I always end up thinking "Why can't I do that?" and I think more annoyingly "Why wouldn't I think to do that?". I have a fantastic imagination - like yourself - but I don't know how to use it!!

OP if you've got the gift of the gab then you are good at something! I'm piss poor at literally everything, from work (every type), art, music, sport, DIY, driving, conversations, socialising, relationships, everything. Name anything in this world, I'm terrible at it

Sounds like you would be great in sales type roles

I’m not good at anything either. I’m an average person. There is probably one thing I could be good at but it may take my whole life to discover what that is or not at all. Maybe that’s the reality for most of us

I'm good at 'gift of the gab'

First thing that springs to mind here is..... Sales, bet you'd be great at that.

The only thing I'm really good at is writing software, It's a bonus, as it's my job and I find pleasure from it outside of work. I can't think of anything else I'm good at.

@PhilCornwall1 That sounds really cool

@IntoTheUnknown27 Not many people have said that, I just get told I'm a geek

Mind you, we did have a giggle here when my youngest was about 4 and I'd figured out controlling the Sky box from something I'd written. He thought he had "special powers" to control it by jumping around. Never did tell him, but at 13 I guess he's figured it out now

I am bad at so many things. I don't think I've evolved to use tools yet like normal humans, I'm very clumsy, can't do maths and am shy and awkward.

The only thing I would say I am better than average at is learning languages. That is literally my only saving grace.

Ps but because of the aforementioned shyness, I daren't speak them, so pretty pointless skill

OP I'm really jealous, gib of the gab could be a great skill to have. You just need to put it to good use, it doesn't need to be a negative thing. What job do you do? There are lots it would be really useful in (e.g see below copied from a us website)

RECRUITER:If you love talking to people about their daily jobs and career aspirations, consider the career of a recruiter. Recruiters don’t necessarily need to be HR specialists in order to be successful at securing an employer’s talent. Natural relationship builders and talkers often make great recruiters. They also enjoy helping people land jobs and make good career choices.

SALES:Itmay seem obvious to say, butgood talkers often make good salespeople. This is becausein order to make sales a salesperson must quickly develop a sense of trust and amicability with customers before jumping into a sales pitch. Continuing with the banter after a sale is another important part of a sales job so a love of socializing is a must.

TEACHING:High energy and speaking skills are a pivotal aspect of being a good teacher, no matter the age of the students. Impeccable social skills help inspire students to learn, convey lessons in an engaging manner, and address any questions or problems that may arise in a classroom environment. A large part of a teaching position is effectively communicating ideas.

SOCIAL WORK:A large part of being a socializer is easily understanding what others are communicating to you. Social workers seek to understand problems of others and help them learn to handle those problems in healthy ways. Social workers require exemplary explanatory skills in addition to a friendly, approachable demeanor, a desire to help others, and a need tosolve problems with words.

NEWS ANCHOR/REPORTING/MEDIA:Perhaps the largest aspect of a news anchor or reporter’s job is public speaking. Not only must they successfully convey information but also relate to their audience on a regular basis. News can be gathered and shared across a variety of media such as TV, radio, newspapers, and the Internet. Online news and media now has increased social exposure through the development of the social media channels as a major driver of audiences.

MARKETING:In marketing, talking skills are used not only to make effective sales pitches but also to develop existing commercial relationships and foster new ones. Marketers share some similar traits with sales professionals in that they both focus on selling products or ideas. Marketers must pitch ideas to internal senior executive and outside vendors.

PUBLICIST:Public relations specialists spend most of their time communicating corporate messagesto the media and the public at large. They must be creative thinkers and quick on their feet. Since media relations play such a large role in the job of a publicist, being talkative is more or less a prerequisite for successfully performing required duties.

I'm not, my social skills are appalling and academically I've failed at everything I've tried, I'm ugly,I'm overweight, friendless and single. I'm unemployable as I never get the job if I even get an interview which is rare. I'm no contact with my family.

I wish I had the ‘gift of the gab’ OP!

I have zero skills at telling lies. Even innocent ones, keep me well away from surprise parties! I also am easily lied to, someone can literally tell me the sky is green and I doubt myself!

I can however work with numbers and data, they don’t lie to me (maybe the people who input them do but not my problem)! I think we all just find our own speciality, mine is mainly away from people!

I’m not good at anything. No talents at all. I’ve failed at everything I’ve ever tried, academically, work wise. I’m not even up to average in most things.

I just accept it now and live a small life.

Sorry some of you are the same

I am a PA for work. Although I'm not very good was laid off from my last role before securing this one.

I like the idea of becoming a recruitment consultant but the fact its apparently cut throat puts me off a lot!

Ive been watching videos of women who do up camper vans to live in. I’m awestruck at how clever and capable they are. I’m the exact opposite.

Things I was good at as a child I gave up on as it didn’t interest me as I grew up

Things I am good at now I’m finding also don’t interest me as much right now (I’m good at my job but it’s right down my priority list so thinking of changing careers now)

I try not to worry about being good at a set thing and look for simple things that matter - I’m good at being there for family

I know what you mean OP.

And I’m not down about it either - I think as long as you have half decent self esteem and don’t hang your entire personality on your talents it doesn’t really matter.

I’m not very good at running but I enjoy it and I made friends through parkrun etc so it has value to me.

I’m not very good at cooking but I’m good enough to not cock up recipes and I enjoy feeding my family and friends.

I am not musical, or creative but I am organised and pragmatic.

Not everyone has or needs or should be exceptional.

At 38 I have finally accepted that I'm mostly average with glimpses of great here and there. Average cook, average intelligence with great ideas sometimes, average mum, average worker( though hardworking, I will give myself that plus 😁), etc. It's ok, not all of us have to be extraordinary. I'm happy with the fact that I try to do my best, I try to be a decent human being, and I have alot to give to those that I hold dear.

I can't do anything crafty despite being told that I could if it put my mind to it'
I'm pretty poor at most things tech too. It just doesn't stick on how to do the harder things.
I'm not very good at maths. Numbers floor me. Other people are so competent.
I feel I was a good mum and installed morals and values in the boys and liked a clean home and dinner on the table but that really is the basics!
I wished I was just better at things.

Me! I am good at listening to people and have had a few jobs along those lines but tbh I’d much rather not. I would rather be creating something like art or music or literature or woodwork or anything - but am truly bad at everything. I would love just one skill that could allow me to work on my own without having to deal with people!

Made me laugh reading that 😂 so really you've got the gift of the gab and good acting skills. Now I'd love to have either one of those!

I haven't got a skill where I don't have to think really hard about what it is. I haven't found my spark yet.

I'm the same OP but I have terrible social anxiety and have no self esteem. Therefore my career chances totally shot

Ever thought of becoming a politician??

Those of you who said that they are not good an anything: You are exceptionally honest.

i thought i was the only one, this thread is refreshing