Is it normal to have frequent thoughts of leaving your dp?

[kikmeenow]

I'm not just talking about you're really pissed off with them and then the thought of leaving them fleets by.
More of a day to day thing - just thinking about about life if you weren't together anymore or thinking how you life would be like if you were with someone else.

Im feeling like this alot. It's probably not a good sign! I don't know if it's the begining of the end or I'm just getting bored or getting older and just don't want to take any crap anymore.

Before anyone suggests that this might be a lockdown thing , it isn't - I've been feeling like this, I would say for the last couple of years.

Am I falling out of love? He's my only long term relationship I've ever had so can't compare to anything else.

Before you leave them?

Yeah, totally normal.

I started to realize my marriage was over when I said to a friend "It's normal to daydream about hitting your DH in the head with a lump-hammer isn't it?" and got this face

I don't know if I'm just unhappy with life in general and im taking it out on the marriage.

I think it's a sign. I've had those thoughts for a while and I'm currently getting my ducks in a row to seperate after lockdown.

No, sadly I don't think it's normal, OP. I think it shows that something is wrong.

I've thought about it... but mines a bit of a dick...

I think about it a lot. I keep finding excuses to stay with him, but can't go on much longer...

It happened to me in my first marriage. Before I even married him, actually. I was such an idiot.

The penny finally dropped when I started to feel envious when hearing of couples splitting up.

The contrast with my second marriage couldn’t be more clear. I have a tear when thinking about being with my now-DH. And I’m not a cryer.

If you’re not happy with him then yes it’s normal. He may be feeling the same way, could you talk to him about how you’re feeling?

It shows that something is wrong. Do you feel uneasy with him?

I have the same on and off. Mostly about life as a single person though and freedom

I get like this often Iv been with my dh 20 years and I’m 35. I go through periods of wanting to leave grass is greener etc!! he’s a lovely person loyal, stable hard working but bores me so much at time’s. Then other times like lately I’m feeling grateful for the life we have and I know a lot of men aren’t as Lovely as him,so I guess I’m saying I miss the excitement and butterfly’s but I do love him and appreciate him especially when I hear all the abuse some woman go through.

Not normal I don't think. I used to picture myself being single when I was married - where I would live, what life would be like. We aren't married any more.

I used to feel exactly like @Lifeisconfusing for years until very recently I broached the subject with my dp and he also admitted he wasn't happy and we are currently splitting up albeit amicably - we have Dd 14 and ds 11 and have been together 18 years with no abuse or real issues (well we don't have sex!) so I guess that is an issue
I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders and although it's very sad I can now reflect and see I should have done it years ago

not being ffs

Doesn't everyone? My Dh is a diamond, but if I won the lottery I would leave without a backward glance. And the ds's. Yes, really. I always have this overwhelming desire to run away and live in a hut seeing no other human kind fir at least a year.
Isn't that normal?

I used to all the time with my ex. I used to say ‘when me and ds’ get our own house I’ll decorate it like this and things like that. It wasn’t even so much I thought about actually leaving it was more a CERTAINTY that we weren’t going to be together forever (because he was an absolute twat) and I knew the day would come where I would leave.