Anyone else have a 'velcro friend'?

[TheLightSideOfTheMoon]

I like my space.

Best friend is the opposite. Needs to be around me other people.

I've been working mental shifts during lockdown - we work together, she is aware of it.

I carved myself a few days off by rearranging shifts. Second day off she badgers me into meeting up. Fine. Not ideal, not what I wanted, but life is give and take.

Just recieved a message telling me she's coming over tomorrow. I said no. I am exhsusted (honestly at breaking point) and just wanted to chill out alone.

I love my friend but she's loud, messy and demanding. And I just need quiet.

She's now in a mood.

It's cool. She'll get over it. I need some quiet time.

Later (or tomorrow) she'll message telling me how depressed and lonely she is. Then I'll feel guilty and have my quiet time disturbed.

She'll do similar if I go out with DP for an evening. Endless stream of messages.

I need better boundaries. I intend to work on them.

Anyone else have any words of wisdom?

Ignore her when you need quiet.

Say no when you don't want to see her.

Let her be in a mood. That's got nothing to do with you. If 'no' offends her, she's not much of a friend.

I think you need to gradually withdraw from this friendship, it sounds exhausting.

She hassles you for going out for the evening with your DP? Seriously?

Suggest she gets a dpet...

Lock your door and do not answer if she comes over. Don’t give in.
If she then moans later on, say you didn’t hear her/in the bath relaxing/ sleeping or simply you didn’t want to be disturbed so didn’t answer the door all day.

Turn your phone off or temporarily block her!!

You've told her you need to chill, she knows why. She has other people she can get in touch with.