Appropriate way to drink Alcohol.

[Zarahmoo]

Hey I have a question. What is the appropriate way to drink alcohol when you have a family?
The reason why I ask: I had a bottle of rose wine once a month. Starting in March. My partner believes that I'm being irresponsible, because I look after the girls the next day. We usually go to bed at 9pm, because of his job.
However if I'm drinking I make sure all jobs are done like cleaning ect. Girls are fine and sleeping. So I drink the bottle and would probably finish 10.30 ish. Now it doesn't get me sloppy drunk. But before I go to bed I drink alot of water, even have something to eat. So I can sober myself up before going to bed.
For me the next day it's feels like I hadn't had a long sleep. But I feel like I'm just as active as if I didn't drink the night before. In fact I feel kinda recharge, after having so time for myself. I know my limits. I know if I drink three bottles I'll probably be sloppy, but I won't do it.
Unfortunately with my circumstances I don't get time to myself. My partner won't look after the girls without me being there. So one evening a month feels okay to drink.
I feel he and his family has a weird view on alcohol.
I'm at a lost. Am I wrong?

@Wolfiefan a bottle of wine once a month isn't enough to build a tolerance.

I swear there are some on MN who think that a thimbleful of cider a week makes you a borderline alcoholic.

OP, the issue here isn't your drinking, it's your partner. Enjoy your wine!

A bottle of wine at a time isn’t good. And if you can sink that and still feel sober then you have more tolerance than most.
But OP they’re his kids? And he never looks after them alone? That’s your real problem. And he says he needs to be shown how to do stuff? That’s so he can get out of doing it.

A bottle of wine is my friday night! He's making excuses for not looking after his own children - that's the issue, not a bottle of wine once a month

Now it doesn't get me sloppy drunk. But before I go to bed I drink alot of water, even have something to eat. So I can sober myself up before going to bed

Wolfiefan

The OP does not say she drinks that and still feels sober.

Why not take issue with your partner's use of gaming consoles when he has his DCs in his care. Not your care. Leave HIM to look after HIS kids and go out for a long boozy lunch, that's my advice!

I like the long boozy lunch idea! Or leave him to it for a weekend away and spread that bottle over a couple of days.

@Wolfiefan I think you’ve missed that she drinks the wine in the evening, and it’s the Next Day she’s deemed not able to look after her partner’s children while he’s there too.

A bottle at once is not healthy. Ok it’s only once a month. But it isn’t.
He needs to start being a father.
Two separate issues.

Your an adult. If you want to drink a bottle of wine then do it. You don't need to justify it to him or us. It's pathetic that he won't look after his own children. I would say that's the main problem in your post