Do you organise friend meet-ups for your 12 old?

[CurtainWitcher]

12 year old DD is very shy and fairly friendless at school. She's texted a couple of local friends asking if they'd like to meet, but there hasn't been a reply. I'm friendly with one of the mums and was thinking of asking if the DC could meet briefly. I'm wondering if that's a bit interfering though at their age? Just hard seeing DD feel so lonely.

DO you mean because of the strange times we are living in ? (Potentially I would, if I had a 12 yr old now) or were you pondering generally, about what others do ?
In which case, no, when mine were 12, I didn't / wouldn't.

But, around Scouts, and other hobbies / sports, there wasn't really any 'meeting up' outside of school anyway, at that age.

I don't but in those circumstances I would.

My child is 11 so obviously a little bit younger, but few of his friends have phones, and we all live rurally or in a village so not all are in walking/cycling distance. in Parents make all the arrangements for them. If he and a friend make plans while chatting on the Xbox, the parents still text each other.

My DD is 13 and was happy just staying in her room endlessly for the previous few weeks, chatting a bit on WhatsApp with her friends but not being proactive about meeting up with them once that was allowed.

She’s shy and thought nobody would be interested in hanging out with her, and that people have their own little cliques/couples so to avoid rejection she just didn’t suggest it.

I took the initiative and group texted a bunch of the mums just asking what they were doing about meet ups etc now that it was allowed. One of them seemed a bit bemused and said she was leaving it up to her Dd to arrange, “as teenagers do LOL” but my teenager doesn’t! The other mums were more open to facilitating, offering to drop off/pick up etc as the girls don’t all live close to each other. Obviously I left them to arrange the finer details between themselves but just having the go ahead from the parents of “xx would love to meet up, she hasn’t seen anyone for ages” etc helped DD to feel less worried about it.

As a result DD arranged separate meet ups with 4 of them last week and this, so has had a much more interesting fortnight than the previous few months!

Yes I do.

He also makes his own plans, but it often happens that I'll bump into one of the parents and we'll make a bit of plan for them and then usually leave them to sort the details themselves.