Holiday without DC

[DragonmotherKhaleesi]

Background info.
I was widowed several years ago leaving me with 3 DC, they are now all aged under 14, youngest is 8. One of my DC has various additional needs.

I have a DP, we have been together 5 years. He has 2 DC aged 14 + 18. We don't live together but all spend lots of time together, been away together for uk breaks. Driven to Europe.

Next year DP is taking his DC on holiday. First time on a plane for them etc, big holiday that he's been waiting to take them on for years. My DC and I have been fortunate enough to go to this place several times already.
We have been invited next year but I can't afford it at the moment plus it's in term time and I refuse to take my children out of school.

I have the option of going with them on holiday without my DC. My in-laws ( from my late DH) would quite happily look after the DC for the 2 weeks.
I would love a break I'll be honest, it's been years since I had a couple of weeks for myself! It's very hard work taking my children on holiday so I don't get much of a 'holiday' for myself.
Would it be awful if I went? Would I scar them for life if I didn't take them?

Not sure a holiday with someone else's dc would be that much of a break! Would you all be sharing a room?

Of course it wouldn't be awful to take sone time for yourself, but not sure you will with someone else's children really.

Is it Disney?

For a holiday just the 2 of you yes, but I couldn't leave my dc behind and go on holiday with someone else's dc. They'd be devastated for a start.

I think if it was just you and your partner I would say go and enjoy but won’t your children feel hurt that you are going with his children ?

I don’t think it’s an appropriate thing to do at all. A weekend break with your dp alone fine. A proper family holiday excluding your own dc definitely not, especially considering the current circumstances.

I would go on a holiday with Just my partner but I wouldnt go with my partner and his children. My children would be gutted and feel put out.

I think your dc would be hurt that you've gone on holiday with another family, but not taken them.
100% think a break with your DP is grand, but this seems a bit mean spirited.

It’s an awful idea. Why don’t you book a trip away just the two of you? You can’t insist your own kids go to school and say you can’t afford for them to have a lovely holiday but go away with his kids who don’t have to go to school and spend your money with them. No way.

I agree, going with just your partner is very different to going on a family holiday that your children have been excluded from because it would cost too much to take them.

Your kids will be very upset if you tell them you're going on holiday with your DP and his kids but they aren't invited.

Can't you and your DP go on holiday just the two of you another time (your kids will still be upset that they aren't going but you can get away with it by telling them it's for adults/over 18's only).

Before I married dh we went away quite often without my dc - he didn't have any - after all a relationship needs nurturing also.
But if he had dc I couldn't have gone with his and not mine...