Friend problems!

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I have a very good friend (probably one of my only close friends) and we have a great time together but I find it very, very hard to talk about myself to her and my problems because all she does is talk about her, which I have no problem with, but that is all she does. No exaggeration. I’m a good listener I believe that is why she vents all her feelings out to me. But sometimes I think that she thinks that I’m some sort of machine. Recently I have been struggling with a few things but haven’t been able to tell her or if I try she replies with “Oh yeah” and carries on about her life like she thinks she is the only one with a life that is falling apart, I’m not denying that her situation right now is hard, I know it is and of course I try my best to support her and help her but she has now made me start to feel very locked away like I can’t talk about my feelings because I feel no one I trust would listen. Why does she do this? How can I make her listen to me more? Please help!

You can't make her listen more, and she will never be the friend you need. She is too self-absorbed to acknowledge anyone else's feelings. This will never change and she is not your friend. She only sees you as her sounding board. For the sake of your own well-being, end this relationship.

some people listen and some people get all the attention if you find a way to redress the balance please let me know. there are better people out there I hope.

I'd broach this with her first. Tell her what you've written and how it makes you feel. That you don't feel you can confide in her because she spends all the time confiding in you and not listening to you when you try to do the same.

Most people genuinely aren't aware and if pointed out, will try to make amends. Her reaction afterwards will then tell you if she truly cares or not.