After how long did you give a key to your house to your boyfriend?

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After how long did you give a key to your house to your boyfriend?

Did he ask for it after he offered his or you initiated to give him a key?

About 20 months or so.
He never really had cause to need one.
Can't remember how the conversation came about, but I suspect it was for some practical reason whereby he did need to go in when I wasn't there one day.
He lived with his parents when we met, so it wasn't anything to do with me having a key to their home.

Never!

After maybe 3 months. Purely because I lived in an upstairs flat and was too lazy to walk down the stairs to let him in
/out, especially when he needed to leave at 5am to go to work!

Never because I was flat sharing until he and I moved in together and we had a group agreement that boyfriends shouldn’t get keys. But I think it was about 6 months in that he felt comfortable to go straight to the flat even if I wasn’t in and have one of the flat mates let him in and wait for me there. Before that (or after and if no one was home) he’d visit the pub across the road and wait for me there

Thanks everyone so far

Few weeks or maybe two months? He was first. I gave him my key the week after that. He used to be an old friend so wasn't a total stranger when we started a relationship so it progressed very wuickly because we didn't do the getting to know eachother part. And no kids. I would be more careful with kids.

About 3 months before I gave him a key but only because he sometimes finishes work really late and comes over. I didn't want to keep waiting up for him or sleep with the door unlocked 😂

We had known each other over a year by then though

Not sure I would give a key to my house. We moved in together pretty quickly, but that is different.

He didn't get a key until he moved in! There was no need for him to have one. Mostly because he lived a 90-minute drive away so I was always aware when he would arrive so was able to let him in and secondly because there was no need.

DH gave me keys to his place after about eight weeks, though it wasn't really necessary as I could only get there if he drove me anyway!

It was useful when I passed my test though as it meant I could go and see him whenever I wanted. We worked opposing shifts and lived 45 minutes apart so I often went to his on my days off so we could spend as much time together after work as possible.

Never , and we were together 5 years before he moved in . He was coming round to see me so I opened the door to him.

I've never given a key to anywhere I've lived to anyone, except dh and that was when he moved in with me. I can't see why they would need a key if we weren't living together. Would they just come over and hang out there and eat my snacks when I wasn't home?

Probably around 4 months. I lived alone and he was in a house share so we spent more time at mine - and sometimes I’d be working late (or would go to work much earlier so he’d lock up) or he’d go out and come back to mine!

He had moved in by 12 months and we got somewhere else together after a year.

Totally depends on the circumstances. I wouldn’t if there were any red flags!

About 2-3 months in. He was spending more and more time at my place, and he could finish work in the AM hours sometimes. Didn't want one for his place, as he still lived with his parents, we were about 24 at the time. It wasn't a major decission/discussion, more like 'hey do you want a key so I don't have to wake up at 3am to open the door?'. I was gkat sharing, and my flatmate was fine with it, discussed in advance. Her bf already had a key, after discussing with me. In all fairness they were both just decent chaps, we all got along great and trusted eachother.

Never - I moved in after 11 months though. Married for 5 years now so must have been the right decision

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