I'm so jealous of my pregnant friend. I feel dreadful.

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She's finding it hard but I can't support her. She's not sick, just struggling with how much weight she's put on and really missing working.

I just have no sympathy :( I want what she has so badly. I'd put on ten stone and lock myself in my house for a year if I had a husband and a baby.

How do I get over this?!

I really feel for you. Maybe keeping in mind you don't know the details of her life might be useful. You don't know if she had anorexia previously or if she's really insecure about her weight because somebody teased her. What you see on the surface is a tiny piece of the story.

Look after yourself op. Her life may not be what you think it is. She might be self harming or depressed. You just don't know. Or had significant trauma in her life.

Ensure you're looking on the right apps op - swiping right - no. Match.com, the ones you pay for - yes. That's where you find people serious about finding a life partner. Don't be passive, and up it to one every two weeks if you're serious - and be yourself, suggest things you like as dates, make jokes you find funny to your dates, and you'll enjoy it more. You've more than likely got ten years to have a baby, so it's good that you're focused on it now, but you have time on your side.

OP, if she's a good friend you should be honest with her and say that while you're really happy for her and sorry that she's struggling, you're also feeling sad about not being in a position to have a baby at the moment, so while you will do her best to support her, you might not always be up to it. Hopefully if she's not a dick she'll get the point and she'll be a bit more sensitive.

If she's not a good friend and not likely to understand how you feel, maybe just step back.

Oh and FWIW you really wouldn't lock yourself up for a year, pregnancy and the newborn days are hard enough without lockdown in the mix. I hope it happens for you one day and I hope you won't have coronavirus to worry about when it does.

It’s so tough. I remember feeling like every woman I saw was pregnant after I had a miscarriage, I felt jealous and awkward and sad for myself even though I was happy for others. When you want something so badly it’s absence becomes amplified.

From the other side once you are pregnant it’s common for it to become your whole world, such a huge life changing thing is happening that you can become a bit obsessed and somewhat selfish in a pregnancy/baby bubble. I know I was!

Does your friend know how you feel? If she’s a good friend then I’m sure you could just tell her you’re finding it hard listening to her (valid) complaints and ask her to be sensitive to your feelings.

You’ve got loads of time, I’m unbelievably unglam and have managed to gather a husband and two kids between your age and mine, you’ve just got to look in the right place for the right kind of husband for you