My 50th has been cancelled

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I really don't make a fuss over my birthday, at most, usually it will be dinner at a chain restaurant with DH and a birthday cake with my parents. I'm not at all bothered about presents and prefer people don't waste their money.

This month I turn 50 and whilst I wasn't planning a big birthday celebration, as such I'd used the milestone to make this the year to "do stuff", the kinds of things you always say you'll do but don't get round to organising.

One by one they've fallen by the wayside and I've just had the cancellation notice for the last one in August.

• Weekend away with adult DC
• Group paddleboarding lesson and picnic with 16 friends and DC
• London musical
• Girly trip to Dublin to run HM
• Cycling holiday with 10 friends

DH is feeling rotten about it too and aiming to do an afternoon tea that my parents can attend in the garden, which will be lovely......but

I could just reorganise everything for next year but it took a lot of doing to get dates people could all do etc and the shine has gone off it now.

I'm feeling sorry for myself, life's still basically good but this is literally the first year ever I had any real plans.

What would you do, in lockdown, to snap out of it and still have a good time?

Rearrange everything for next year; peoples calendars are likely mostly empty. You'll be glad you did it- you won't get this chance again for a while

Nobody's ready to commit for next year yetliaun. Initially I just thought same date next year, but with people's shift patterns etc, that doesn't work.

In the groups we have a number of NHS and school staff, so juggling the need for school holidays or weekends around the NHS shifts was not simple first time round.

My sister was pregnant when she was 40 so no massive celebrations. This year she was 50 so all her plans for holidays, concerts, shows etc have been cancelled. I'm going to suggest she celebrates her 60th a year early.

Sympathies!

That looks like a lot of money saved tho. Would you consider planning a massive NYE blow out? Welcome in your new decade then.

All of DD's 18th birthday celebrations have been cancelled throughout lockdown. Her birthday was in April and it all stopped: holiday, party, nights out. Same as all her end of exams/finishing school celebrations which were due this month and into the summer.

We will rearrange. It's Now looking like it'll be next year.

I know it's disappointing but it can't be helped. Start to make plans, even if not booked, for next year and it may help you feel better about it.

My 40th is in a few days.

Thankfully I hate birthdays, hadn't planned anything do don't feel too short changed. O do feel for those who had plans / would really love to celebrate.

I've just ordered wine and cake

Aw I'm sorry OP it sucks. I hope you can rearrange and snjoy in the future