Wedding invites?

[dobbyssoc]

We are supposed to be getting married at the end of the year we sent out save the dates but have not sent out wedding invites yet. I really really don't want to pay over £100 if the wedding is not going ahead! When we asked the venue what the protocol was they, understandably, said they didn't know yet but they would do their best to accommodate social distancing etc if needed. Problem is DP and I simply don't want this. We are going to be paying quite a lot of money and we understandably want it to be a perfect day rather than everyone be afraid of one another.
So do I get the invites printed and send them out. We have to have our final numbers and menu choices by October so couldn't leave it too much later.
What have other people done?

Are you able to postpone? Could you just move the wedding back 6 months to be safe?

I also don't want to send out invites then have numbers limited which the venue said may happen and then have to un invite people

@Teacher12345 the venue won't let us. Until we get to the month before they will not postpone without us paying the cancellation fee. They have said if weddings are allowed they will go ahead and social distancing and limited numbers will be enforced.
We really do want to push it back but can't justify or afford the extra cost of it

How much will you lose if you cancel? I would tell them if they don't let you postpone, you will conder cancelling.

You’re in a tricky position as unless they cancel I assume any insurance you’ve bought won’t pay out. You need to decide if you’re more willing to lose the money you’ve spent or more willing to compromise (possibility substantially) on your wedding.

In your situation I might either have a small registry office with immediate family so as to not push the marriage back but cancel the wedding and do that when things are more freed up.

@Teacher12345 if we cancel we have to pay a minimum of £3000

@BacklashStarts we did have a conversation about that. To be honest the venue isn't important to us (although it is lovely) but we obviously want it to be a special day and not be stressed out that my grandma can't come within 2 meters of us!

Thing is I totally understand that no one has any idea of what is happening yet and we are happy to wait until nearer the time but it is just daunting not knowing! We haven't got that many coming to the ceremony (50 people) who are mostly family so we were thinking of just sending a text to say we are holding off sending info.
Or we get invites printed and have an insert that basically says this is all subject to change!

Our wedding was planned for August but now postponed til May 2021. We didn't print invites out but used a free website called with joy and emailed invite. The website then takes all the replies and creates table with who is coming, song requests etc. When we changed dates we could send a group email from website to let everyone know. It also has space for q&a section and photos. It looked really good with our engagement pic up. Apparently after wedding guests can load their pics up.

It's saved us a lot I money than traditional way and meant as things have changed we could adapt. When guests heard, they completely understood.

I'm no expert but surely if the venue says they are limiting numbers they are not providing the service you booked? We chose a venue that could hold 150 people. If they turned around and said actually you can now only invite 75 I'd have something to say.

@newphoneswhodis

I'm no expert but surely if the venue says they are limiting numbers they are not providing the service you booked? We chose a venue that could hold 150 people. If they turned around and said actually you can now only invite 75 I'd have something to say.

This is a good point and may be your get out clause.

@Glendaruel that's brilliant. I hadn't even thought about that!
@newphoneswhodis they said they would refund us per person who wouldn't attend which then covers them as technically we will only be paying for the service provided.
I think we will wait until the end of July then see what's happening in the world

I'm due to get married on 27th December. I'm waiting until at least October to send mine out, so I can see what happens between now and then.

We have the same date reserved for next year as well, should we need it.

Wedding website is usually free

If you don't need to give them final numbers until October, I would just hold off. You could follow up with people by email in an informal way, but delay the printing of the invitations until say August. The invitations are more a formality. You can make sure people are saving the date/get an idea of who will realistically attend by email/Whatsapp/whatever. If people are truly planning to attend, they surely won't need more than a couple weeks to respond with their meal choices.