I'm actually considering a second baby

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I always said I would only have one. While I was TTC (it took a while) I said to DH we'll only have one. While I was pregnant I continued to say I would only have one. I spent most of my pregnancy on crutches and the end of it in a wheelchair because of PGP. I opted for a c-section partly because I wasn't concerned about subsequent pregnancies because I was only having one. I had/have PND and that added to my resolve to just have one.

DS is 6 months and I actually said to DH tonight? if I was up for it would you want another? I've clearly taken leave of my senses!

I won't mention it to another sole because I have some work to do if I do want one more. I need to get back into shape and probably loose a shed load of weight. Then there's would we actually conceive. I'm still young so there's not too much urgency.

What is this sorcery? Are babies addictive? While having a toddler put me off? I would probably aim for a 4 year gap anyway so we don't have to pay for childcare for 2. Oh dear I've started making plans. It's inevitable now isn't it?

I always wanted more. But after a terrible pregnancy and now even 16 years later suffering from the medical after effects I Always said no more. I only wavered once. And then that only lasted about two months.

I never felt the need or drive to have another one really. But I have heard that need or urge can override most things.

Now my son is 16 and I have my life back I’m glad I didn’t. But it would have been nice for him to have a sibling.

I have no idea but it definitely is some baby sorcery at work. I had a one only baby mantra. At three months old I was trying to sell the Moses basket (although that's a piece of crap I wish I'd never bought anyway!) and giving away clothes etc. Then covid hit and I was sure I wouldn't want another as the world is soo scary etc. I was tired and it has been hard doing the house work etc and having a baby. Now at six months old I'm starting to conveniently forgot the awful pregnancy, the worrying, the consultant appointments, those awful first month's when you're insanely tired and now think two would be nice! Sadly for me unless I split from my partner he doesn't want to have another (two children already from a previous relationship).

No addiction for me, I knew when I was pregnant that I didn't want any more. Hasn't changed and DS is about to turn 7.

I found the toddler stage is the most demanding. See how you feel then although if you do want more then no one is stopping you! Is DH on board?

I had my, bless him ‘tricky’ DS1 and was saying in theatre recovery that I’d happily go through it all again - you should of seen the looks my parents and in-laws were exchanging 😂😂, same after DS2 super easy baby but after DS3 I was adamant I didn’t want another one. Not. One. Smidge.

He turned 5 today and I’ve been waivering for ages. DH has said 110% no way, so that’s that!

Haha yes wait til your baby is 2 or 3 and see how you like kids then

It's broody hormones, 6 month olds are super cute and life has hopefully settled a bit now.

17 months between mine. It was crazy times, but great, and they were so funny as toddlers. We had been aiming for a closer age gap and I always wanted 2 or 3. We stuck at 2, after some debate where both DH and I never held the same opinion at the same time, there are no regrets.

I think some of it is definitely that DS is a really good baby. That makes me worried that baby 2 wouldn't be.

It's definitely not on the cards soon so we'll see if the feeling passes.

DH is on board but says it's up to me if I feel like it or not because in his words pregnancy "kicked my arse". I think some of it is watching him be a dad, it's like he was made for it.

I did the opposite! Always wanted 2 kids, right up until I had DS and realised how horrendous it is and decided to never ever do it again. DS is 2 now, and friends are now moving onto their second babies and pregnancies and I honestly think they're mad for doing it again!