Upset with parents.

[Yorkiee]

My LO (girl) is 7.5 months and weighs 9kg.

She is chubby. My husband was a chubby baby too.

Is this weight overweight for a 7.5 month old?

My parents said she is fat. I just felt like crying - she was born premie and was so tiny. Weighed 2kg and 200grams. I was so sad to see her like that and now she is growing I felt happy.

She isn't even a big drinker. she drinks way more when she is about to take a nap / sleep so that is when it's her feeding time. Her solids are 3 times and but it's only one spoonful each time.

She drinks about 23oz in a day. She only takes 3/4 oz at each feed sometimes 5oz but then will take less in next feed.

Am I doing something wrong?

I just feel so sad after those comments. I won't be sending them any photos anymore..

Anyone who compares a 7.5 month old to a 12 day old in terms of size is an idiot so feel free to ignore. Her height and weight seem proportionate so she’s probably just naturally bigger right now. How big she is right now doesn’t even matter really in terms of how big she will be in the future - your dd could end up losing weight and gaining height and your neice could become short and obese.

Oh my i had this with my son, everyone commented at the time even strangers, but looking back on pics dear love him he really was chunkier than my 3 year old nephew when he was 6 months lol. Anyways he was 95th centile but now he is slim and tall at 2.5 years. Just give them chunky legs and belly mummy kisses and enjoy her baby chub while it lasts xx

Forgot to say he was easily the same weight as your wee one at that age x

My nearly 2 year old currently weighs what a 3 years old should and her height is already what a 2 year old should be. My little girl has always been a chunky monkey, and she has been called fat before, but in reality she is just a bigger girl.

My baby is not even 7 months yet and weighs more than your baby. She's in size 4 nappies. My friend whose baby in 13 months older than my baby is also in size 4 nappies. Babies, the same as adults, don't weigh the same regardless of age.

If it helps, one of my DC was the fattest baby I've sever seen, he's now a very lean six year old. I highly doubt your 7mo old is overweight, it was mean of your parents to say that. She sounds like a perfectly healthy baby to me!

@GrumpyHoonMain @Success1986 @lulu788 @croberts1208 @SamsMumsCateracts ah so nice to hear these! Thank you to all. I feel like I'm doing the right thing. I'm going to ignore. And I just won't be sending anymore photos.

Don’t for goodness sake even begin to consider trying to get a baby to lose weight. Quite a dangerous thing for her to suggest.

Not sure where she was at birth but she’s roughly on 75th percentile line. Assuming she’s a reasonable length, she’s fine.

Tell your parents to FO. My DS was 5kg when he was born so you can imagine what size he was at 7.5mths. My DC were all big babies and my PIL always compared them to there cousins. My OH was told to put my DD on a diet when she was 10mths as his parents had decided she was obese. They were told to bugger off and keep there nasty opinions to themselves, my HV laughed and said they were being ridiculous. Funny thing is the FIL would be the one trying to feed the kids crap as a baby. Oh I should add my DD is a teenager now and pin thin

To put it in perspective my DD was 8lb 12oz when she was born and a chubby baby and toddler. She's now 18, 5ft 1in tall and about 7 stone wet through. She eats like a horse! We're all short girls on my side of the family.
My DS was 8lb 1oz and is now slim and 5ft 10in at 15.
They change so much. Please ignore the comments. They don't know what they're talking about!

My youngest whose 5 was a fat baby lol. Anyways min started walking and weaned shes skinny leave her to it she needs it

She sounds lovely! I think many mums worry about their babies weight. My LG was small, 25th century, and I constantly worried. My friends all had big babies and they worried too! Unless there is a health risk (and your HV and GP will make you aware of this) there is no need to worry.

@Yorkiee I took my little foster baby for a check up with the HV yesterday (I foster, children in care get a six monthly review), the baby is 7 months old exactly and weighs 9kg, (birth weight was 2.6kg so not dissimilar to your little one), baby has crossed centiles but the HV was not concerned. She, the HV, said that once baby gets crawling the chances are the weight will self level. Yes, baby has chubby legs and arms at the moment but neither the HV or the GP are concerned, enjoy your baby!

My littlest was very prem, just less than a kilo at birth. She is adopted and after her rough early start, she then had a shit first year, she is now about to start school. She is just in 2 year old clothes (about 86 cm, just over 11 kg). I long for her to bulk up and shoot up, and she has done really well. She is in proportion and she is very cute, but noticeably small (however, she is incredibly strong for her age, like an ox!). She is either feast or famine (she can seriously eat like a horse), but it tends to balance out by the end of the week.

Your baby knows what it needs and as long as your HV is not worried, please ignore them.

@bloodywhitecat wow thank you so much for sharing that!!!

@UnicornAndSparkles you are right either way mums will just worry. 😅 other people just make it worse

@Weatherforducks thank you. I haven't seen HV seen lockdown but due a review with gp and will see how that goes.

I actually told my mum there are lovely mums out there (on mumsnet) that have helpmed me way more than any family members.

Hi @Yorkiee, I think that was what I was getting at. Us mums will worry what ever the case. But babies (in my limited experience) at that age are not greedy, they are acting on instinct. My girl is under a paediatrician who is not overly concerned but there has been talk of growth hormones. we are not overly keen, depending on what the height specialist says. We think she will just be the very cute, very strong, small sassy girl in her class (she really does not take any nonsense). Just give your baby what they need, you've got years of worry ahead...so pace yourself!!

Of course you're sensitive, you've emerged from dealing with a tiny premie to surviving motherhood without the usual support mechanisms. Anyone would be after that rollercoaster! You've done well!

I seem to remrmber that one of the rough guide for readiness for weaning was being double birthweight so mine were roughly 8kg around 6m and they were fairly average by that stage.

DS2 was a square stocky sort of baby, like a rugby player in his prime. He's now a 7 yo twig.
Baby shape really isn't indicative of how they'll grow. They really lengthen and stretch between 2-4.

My little boy is nearly 7 months and weights more than your little girl. There is no BMI calculator for children until they hit two years old. My little one is 100% centile for both length and weight so is perfectly in proportion. I wouldn’t worry about her weight, just keep her away from sugar until she is a lot older. I absolutely get where you are coming from, my OH calls our boy fat and it really winds me up!

When I was doing my nursery nursing training we were taught to work out the expected weight of a baby in order to calculate how much milk they should be having. This was 1 oz per day weight gain minus 10 (because babies regain birth weight by 10 days. I don't know if that helps, but your baby doesn't sound over weight or over fed to me.

mine were huge when they were born and one of them stayed huge and right at the top of the centiles. Really don't worry. But you must not take it personally. Lots of people commented on the size of mine and told me they must be older (er no I remember their ages) or overfed (again no) and once they are running around they do lost some of it. Both mine have been skinny as anything since they were about 4. please just enjoy the chubbiness.

your parents are horrible bastards saying that ?! WTAF

They're supposed to chunk up at that stage! The wrist and thigh rolls are the best bit!