Was I wrong to be offended?

[Chicken555]

We were invited to my nephews birthday. He turned 3 years old.

He has so many toys and my sister is picky with clothes. She likes branded clothing which I can't afford.

I decided to give £100 for them to buy something he wanted.

At some point in the evening I found the opportunity and gave her £100.

Just before I was leaving she handed over money and I was a bit shocked. She said this is for Sarah (my lo) her birthday gift money. Her birthday was end of May..

I said this is silly.. you are literally giving my money back to me. She gave £80. She kept going I forgot to give it ect.. I was so pissed I just took the £80. She would not let me pass till I took it.

I was offended. Was I right to be?

She could have just waited and given it another day.

I'm just thinking I won't be accepting anymore gifts from her. Or just give it back to her like she did to me?

I don’t think I’ve ever spent more than £15 on a 3 year olds birthday!

So ultimately you gifted her child 20,which is a normal amount and she gave yours nothing. I would not do presents going forward, especially if you are just passing money back and forth. I find giving money as gifts offensive in the first place, it looks like people can’t even be bothered.

@SiaPR

So ultimately you gifted her child 20,which is a normal amount and she gave yours nothing. I would not do presents going forward, especially if you are just passing money back and forth. I find giving money as gifts offensive in the first place, it looks like people can’t even be bothered.

Surely if people weren't bothered they would just give the child nothing at all?

Personally I think buying a toy or book is the best way to go for a child, but I don't mind receiving money either. Hate being given clothes for them as it doesn't feel like a gift to me and then you have to put it on them even if you don't like it.

100 is definitly far too much though and I would feel quite uncomfortable being given that amount from anyone bar my own mother, as then you'd feel obligated to spend the same on their child in the future.

Still think ops sister is a weirdo.

Bluntness, clearly not as the OP says, I gave £100 because anything less and she have moaned

I suspect the op has that wrong. Based on her giving her the money back.