I was with my partner for 3 and half years on and off, for the last year and half I gave up my home to live with him and every time we argued he would say it was his house and me and my children had to leave, we left several times and went back several times. He used to make me feel really insecure about every aspect of myself, my weight, my looks, my parenting, everything. He would go in a mood and cause an argument if I visited family and I was never allowed to see friends, he had previously beat me, mentally head f**cked me (apologies). Eventually I found the courage to finally leave.
After 2 years of being single, we got back together, he had several relationships during our breakup and had several different women in his home. I eventually moved back into his home, but I was smart enough to keep my own home, he still says it’s his home now when we argue But he doesn’t physically throw me and my stuff out, he just says it would be me who us to leave. He tells my kids that they are leaving if I ever say I feel like leaving him or anything along those lines. He brought me a dog as a present and he says the dog is he. We recently had a fall out, and the next day we was okay, but he poked me in the face because he didn’t like my tone of voice when I said something, so I poked him back and he then slapped me. I reacted to this by shouting at him and saying some nasty things, which he replied with nasty things too and I said I don’t want a relationship like that and I don’t want to be with him. He told my kids we are moving out again, he was telling my kids not to touch his dog etc. I have tried explaining that him constantly saying to the kids that they are leaving, is damaging to them, it doesn’t provide security for them and makes them feel like where there living isn’t home. He doesn’t understand this and says the kids are fine. My kids have been through a parent break up and the above aswell as a break up on their fathers side too.
He also told my children he would rather give the dog away than let them have the dog. My kids are distraught and we’re crying and he didn’t care. But the dog was given to me as a gift, and his microchip and vet is in my name. Can I get my dog off him?
Am I being dramatic for leaving because he hit me and I feel he makes the kids feel like they aren’t at home with the things he says? He’s making me feel like I have upset my children by leaving him and I’m being extreme because he didn’t hurt me, he Just poked and slapped me.
I’m really confused, I do love him but I don’t want my kids to think I am putting them in the same situation over and over again.
Should i put my feelings aside and stick to my word and not go back, or am I being dramatic for leaving?