The ick

[NancyBotwinBloom]

Hi all

I've got it.

Has anyone ever come back from it. I want to!

I think the ick is like herpes, sadly. Once you've got it, it's there to stay.

Is it caused by something sometimes? Like resentment that could be sorted out?
I don’t know, I am just hoping to shed a little ray of hope.

My DH is lovely. He really is. I just can't stand to want to do the deed.

I think it's me.

He does everything I ask him.

He's perfect.

He really is. I just don't fancy him.

Normally this is because there is someone else you do fancy..

I really really want to come back from this.

I don't. I don't fancy anyone.

I'm 40.

I think I'm done with all that .

Can you tell us a bit more OP? There a loads of threads on here where DPs do annoying/gross stuff but it doesn't always lead to the ick.

OTOH, once the ick sets in, even for the most benign reasons, there's no going back. What are your feelings when you think about DTD with him?

It could be your hormones, op. Peri-menopause can cause all sorts of chaos.

Yes I agree about hormones, it could be that, are you having any other symptoms? I went the other way & went sex mad, but I hear it's equally common as going off sex.

If the ick kicks in and you don’t want to even kiss the guy it doesn’t bode well. I’ve had the ick a couple of times in relationships and never found my way back. Once it’s there it’s there sadly, no matter how convenient it would be if it vanished

This happened to me! My ex is the most amazing guy you could ever meet and I thought we would be together forever. One day we went to do the deed and the ick just kicked in. That was it, there was no going back! I couldn't even bring myself to hug or kiss him without it being icky. I had to let him go, but felt (and still feel) so so guilty about it as he had never done anything wrong

Did you really fancy him to begin with?

I got the ick on my honeymoon, still have it 12 years later, there is no cure.

Yes I fancied him like fuck originally.
Couldn't keep my hands off him.

The things that didn't bother me originally Now make me go from 0 to ten in literally one second.

I had the ick with my ex. For good reason, but that is a whole other story. I thought it was age and hormone related but I'm now in a new relationship and can't get enough of him. Sorry OP, the spark has gone.

Ok I'm from Canada so could someone explain ick to me? Lol

Iv got the ick too 😔

Its awful because i only have the ick about DH 😔

The ick is when you think about sex with your partner and you just think, no thanks.

I get the ick when my DH drops heavy hints about sex. It turns me off.

Having a shower, shaving your legs, using a nice moisturiser then putting on some nice undies, then sharing a bottle of wine helps? Sometimes you have to just push-on-through the ick because the more sex you have the more you want it.

It's all so icky

I have the ick with DH. I am sure it's the menopause with me. I don't ever want sex again with anyone.

@SpanishFly do you mind me asking how old you are ?

@IfOnlyOurEyesSawSouls don't mind at all. I'm 45.