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Just feel completly worn out.

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delilabell · 07/06/2020 16:35

Just feels like everytging is never ending.
My mom and dad are isolating still so I get their shopping every week, prescriptions when they need them
My son has special needs. We are seeing a psychologist (via zoom), his diagnosis should have been given the week before lockdown but was cancelled and we've been given another one for November.
My husband is working full time so it's me with the children. I worry as he works with the public.
My son is exhausting. He doesn't sleep well. He is hyperactive when awake. He doesn't know his own strength. Can't be left alone with his little sister. We have the chance to send him to school but I feel tremendously guilty if I do.
I have a temporary contact in a school til January. I don't know when I will be back properly so can't see them keeping this contract going.
We've cancelled our holiday to a cottage in Britain but I feel should I have waited.
I have anxiety. I cried to my dh today. I could hear my son screeching and shouting. Just the thought of starting the day again.
I know people have it far far worse than me.
But at the moment it just feels all too much.

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PaperMonster · 07/06/2020 17:55

Sounds exhausting. I don’t have half of that going on and I’m worn out. Big hugs to you xxx Flowers

CormoranStrike · 07/06/2020 17:59

Please send him to school

CormoranStrike · 07/06/2020 18:00

Sorry hit send to soon.

You deserve the break, your daughter deserves some time without him and he needs distractions in life.

Gunpowder · 07/06/2020 18:16

I’d absolutely send your son to school. Don’t feel guilty! He might really benefit from the structure and while he is there you can concentrate on your DD and catch up so you have energy to concentrate on him when he is home.

You poor thing I’m not surprised you are exhausted. Flowers

happytoday73 · 07/06/2020 18:24

OK you are trying to do too much... You can't keep going like this.. You really need a break... So... What can you offload?

Can your parents not get a supermarket delivery each week? Or other delivery? You can then just do any small extra bits and chemist and pop around with.. Perhaps sit in garden for a bit if they gave one

Id put your son in school... Even if its just 2 days middle of the week... It'll help

Good luck

Theforest · 07/06/2020 18:29

I think it makes sense for all concerned, him included, that he should go to school.

Organise supermarket delivery for parents. I do this for my mum since lockdown and it works great. You just need to get to know when the slots are released, but I think more are available now than in the beginning of lockdown.

Justgivemewine · 07/06/2020 18:35

Delilabell Why do you feel quilty about sending him to school?

I’m in a similar situation and would send ds to school if I could for the sake of the MH of all the family including him. Even thought dh and I are vulnerable it’s a trade off against the risk of CV or the risk of major MH crisis

frogsbreath · 07/06/2020 18:39

I understand, my life is completely the same.

I have no help to give I just want to say I am completely the same and it's about time someone looked out for us, because holding everything together is breaking us.

alwaysthinkingofsleep · 07/06/2020 18:46

I've been feeling the same. My son went back last week & things have improved drastically. He's much happier, school is lovely, my house is tidier & I'm not crying every day

Don't feel guilty

delilabell · 07/06/2020 20:33

Thank yoh so much everyone. I feel people will judge me for sending him back. And people on here saying keeping children off school. But I just can't manage.he goes to a mainstream school who refuse to do an ehcp because of money and they say he's intelligent. I find him so so exhausting. My husband is currently sporting a black eye from him.
@Justgivemewine I think that is it entirely. I've already had my anti depressants increased but I can feel myself teetering.
I need to get organised with deliveries. I need to get organised with life of I'm honest.
Thabk you all for being so kind. It makes me feel like I'm not making it up

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purpleme12 · 07/06/2020 20:41

Well I'm worn out and my child doesn't even have special needs.
Absolutely send him to school
My child is going back
And to be honest I do feel like people are judgy about it (not everyone) or at least they're like my way is he only way and that's that
But well, she's still going anyway

delilabell · 08/06/2020 13:03

I phoned the school this morning and he's starting tomorrow.
It's after he's been awake since 2am. Repeatedly hit his sister and trashed my bedroom. I'm so so tired of this.

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Angelonia · 08/06/2020 13:05

I hope his time at school makes things a bit easier for you OP.

DelurkingAJ · 08/06/2020 13:10

Well done! My DS with no additional needs was a different (and much more pleasant!) small boy after restarting preschool last week. I hope for a similar improvement for you. It sounds really tough, well done for surviving so far!

SpockPaperScissorsLizardRock · 08/06/2020 13:17

Glad he's going back. My son is autistic and we asked the SENCO last week if he can go back. Sadly they are full at the min so he's on the waiting list.

Also, ask your doctor about melatonin if you haven't already. It's done wonders for DS sleep and our mental health!

Gunpowder · 08/06/2020 13:18

Well done Delila. I hope things are brighter when you have a tiny bit of breathing space.

Justgivemewine · 08/06/2020 14:43

Hopefully that will give you a much need break Delila.

You can apply for a ehcp yourself if you think he really needs one. you dont have to rely on school. Its a myth that you wont get one if your child is intelligent, its about whether their needs stop them accessing education.

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