Oh brother spurting racist crap on Facebook

[mmorestress]

OH birthday is coming up we're supposed to be having a bbq at his mums. I've always known he was ignorant but these Facebook posts are too much.

I'm black and I just don't feel very comfortable at all now his nephew and niece are mixed race so I'm surprised he could have such views.

How on earth am I supposed to read this stuff and then sit and talk to him next week?

I'd be telling your oh you don't want him there. If he's any kind of partner and father he'd already have withdrawn the invitation

Has your OH ever called him out on this?

You don't have to put up with this. Don't go to the Bbq and tell the dickhead brother why. I also wouldn't let my kids go either.

Oh!! My BIL is having a fucking field day at the moment.

Problem is we can't block the fuckwit entirely as we have to keep half an eye on him (alcoholic, living alone and in need of semi regular hospitalisation).

Talk to your DH. If he expects you to play nice because you're an adult and 'family' ask him how he feels when he hears his brother and looks at his kids!? Which family will he choose. And yes, he does have to make a choice. Why would he do otherwise to his own kids?

I wouldn't be speaking to him

Your OH needs to tell him he’s not welcome at the bbq and why. Hopefully he’ll apologise and change his ways but at least he’ll twig that actions have consequences.

Absolutely no way should you have to make nice