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Did anyone start smoking again after having baby?

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CassandrasCastle · 07/06/2020 15:40

Because that's just where I'm at 😑 DD is 7 weeks. I gave up what was about 5/6 a day habit as soon as I found out i was pregnant, but a couple of weeks ago ridiculously started having one cigarette in the evening as a reward or something.
Now I'm finding myself wanting one right now Confused
I hate myself for doing it, desperately rushing to wash off the smell, brush my teeth etc. It's so stupid. Did anyone else succumb?

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borntohula · 07/06/2020 16:10

Yeah but only when I had alcohol initially. I've recently stopped again after beginning to find it revolting.

GetTheStartyParted · 07/06/2020 16:19

I did after both of my children. I really wished that I hadn't. Eventually, when my youngest was around a year old, I decided I had to quit, for real. Hes now almost 12 and I haven't smoked since.

I had tried to quit so many times but you have to be ready.

Pepperwand · 07/06/2020 16:21

I did but stopped myself after a while as couldn't bear the thought of smoke particles being on me then being up in the night holding or feeding my son. I still have the occasional one if out and drinking socially, maybe one a month or something but I really need to knock it on the head. The thing is you know you can do without and you want to be healthy for your children. It's difficult though I do get it, but best to try and knock it on the head now as it can be a slippery slope. I found the nicorette spray worked for me when quitting my 5 a day habit.

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CassandrasCastle · 07/06/2020 16:53

I feel hideously guilty about smelling of smoke around her

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glasshalfsomething · 07/06/2020 16:56

I did. It creeped back in after a few with alcohol and developed back in to a 10 day a habit (at work and once my little one was in bed). I’ve given up again, but it was so much harder without the push of being pregnant.

My only advice is to stop now. Trust me. It just gets harder and harder to give up. If you’ve managed before you can absolutely do it now.

beelola · 07/06/2020 16:58

Same as other posters. Started again but felt guilty about it being on my clothes and stopped again. I haven't touched one since

BlueBooby · 07/06/2020 17:07

I hadn't smoked for 2 years before I got pregnant and I didn't smoke in pregnancy. In my dd's first year I started to have the odd ciggerette and five years on, I'm back to being a full time smoker. Hate myself for it.

TinyPigeon · 07/06/2020 17:08

No but I really fucking want to. I do not have a replacement activity that I find destressing.

UnicornRainbow83 · 07/06/2020 17:16

I started smoking again after both DC. Stopped again when I was 6 weeks pregnant with DC3, I really don't want to start again but I don't seem to have the willpower to stay off then when I'm not pregnant. I hate the smell of them and feel terrible stinking of smoke around the DC yet find it so hard staying off them.

Duckyneedsaclean · 07/06/2020 17:16

I did after both my first and second.

I eventually gave up with Alan Carr's Easy way book (audiobook in my case). Really recommend, even if you only have a one or two a day habit.

I had got up to 15-20 a day and stopped all together 4ish years ago. Not even tempted tbh.

FaceOfASpink · 07/06/2020 17:17

Nope. 20 a day for at least 10 years before conceiving DC1. 2 fags after the pregnancy test came back positive and I couldn't finish the second one. I couldn't imagine smoking near the precious perfection of a newborn. Fast forward 25 years and I haven't had another fag since though there have been times when I've really wanted one.
If it helps, I'm a teacher and your kids and their reading bags and books will smell of your fag smoke even if you are eversocareful. So will their hair and uniform. You'll think they won't but they definitely will. Also if you save your fag money now, you could save enough to buy them a car at 17 or help them through university or with a deposit on a flat.
Hope that helpsConfusedWinkGrin

dreamingofsun · 07/06/2020 17:23

my husband has asthma and so does his brother, and my husband now smokes too and is clearly worried as he wont let our kids know - we cant do lots of things as a family as a result. I guess this is because deep deep down he thinks smoking is normal as he was brought up with it (mum and lots of family relatives did it) , or rationally he would try and give up..........you are putting your kids in similar situation for their adult lives.

lazylinguist · 07/06/2020 17:29

I feel hideously guilty about smelling of smoke around her

Rightly so. My parents smoked and I hated it. You'll also feel guilty in the future if you have to tell her you're dying of a smoking-related disease. Harsh, I know, but smoking is grim. Why should your baby's life be affected by it?

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