So my father has been furloughed now for the past couple of months and is now at home alone. He has lived Alone since mum passed away 6 years ago. I do understand how lonely he must feel since he doesn't get the social stimuli from work and from going to the pub. I try to video chat most days and I know he will video chat my sister and her children and will see them from socially distancing (I live far away and heavily pregnant, however did travel to see him socially distancing a few weeks ago on his birthday).
He has taken to playing online games with his friends which is nice for him and has also started including my partner. At first I thought it was nice they are bonding, however it's now getting too much. My dad will message my partner daily to play, but if my partner says no my dad just tells him he needs to get from under the thumb and other comments like that and my partner then tells me I'm controlling him . I don't have a problem with him playing online games, however it's got to the Point he has started playing till the early hours of the morning. On a week night this is till around midnight when my partner has to get up at 4 to drive 2 hours for work. On a weekend he will play till around 4 in the morning then sleeping all day. He has started to get irritable and snappy as he is so tired and this is causing a lot of arguments. I've tried speaking to partner about not playing so late and he just tells me I'm just trying to control what he does and that he doesn't want to let my dad down, and I've spoke to my dad who tells me to grow up and stop being pathetic. When I said to my dad that it's not fair there is a child to look after and another one on the way, he just responds saying well I'm there so I can look after them (even though I work all week and do the shopping, washing and housework at the weekend as partner is in bed). I'm so angry and upset and really feel at a loss of what to do. Am I just being pathetic and just 'chil out more's they both keep telling me I should do