My mum is racist

[Ingridla]

She posts far right stuff on Facebook. Back story, we've never got on, every now and then I try to find peace with her and get in touch she behaves horribly and reminds me how awful she is. I left home as a young teen, she's never been supportive. She a narcissist and very critical. My brother and I are really upset, I don't know what I'm asking really, I'd just like some advice and to see if anyone else has similar problems and how you cope emotionally.

I think your instinct to keep her at a distance is the right one. Concentrate on your brother. Block her on Facebook.

My mother is racist, I’m not in touch with her now. I’d point out to her that the things she said were offensive but she just said she was entitled to her views. She won’t change and I’m not sure your mother will either. It’s miserable, but if she won’t change then you should. Move on, live your life. It’s sad but better than living with her abuse.

Thank you, your Mother sounds similar, the 'I'm entitled to my opinion' is precisely the sort of thing she'd say. I can't shake the feeling of shame and disgust in my gut. It's so embarrassing and ignorant.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. You’ve got to accept that you’re not responsible for her, she’s unlikely to change and the only thing you can do now is change your relationship with her.

My mother loves to say she speaks her mind and people have to accept her as she is, but weirdly she’s furious that none of her children or grown up grandchildren want much to do with her.