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thisnamegotchanged · 06/06/2020 12:50

Please can someone advise me?
I'm married to a man who is an ex-gambler, he says he's reformed, but I don't know what to believe.
We are both pension aged and we live in his house (we have only been married 5 years and I moved into his because I've always been a renter).
Part of the reason we got married was to provide each other with companionship in our old age and to help and support each other.
I have recently seen signs that he might be gambling again. Which I guess isn't un-surprising, but he promised me that it was all in the past and he wasn't an addict.
Is there anyway to check he has run up debts or has re-mortgaged the house?

He does everything online and so there's no possibility of me seeing bank statements etc and he gets very defensive and angry if I try to talk to him. I'm worried he's arranged equity release, which would end up with me being homeless after he died (he's a bit older than me and we agreed I would look after him in ill health and he would leave me the house to live in if he dies before me - we've both been married before, and we are very practical about marriage).

Is there anything I can do to check about the house?

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