Single, childless, beginning to wonder if it will ever happen to me

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Objectively, I know I am still young (32). But bloody hell, I feel like every day recently that a friend or acquaintaince gets engaged or pregnant.

I want a relationship and a baby so badly. I’m beginning to find that my first reaction to my friends’ good news is ‘Oh FFS’ rather than happiness. What sort of horrible person am I turning into?! :(

No one else’s good news is stopping your own happiness though, they aren’t connected and you wouldn’t be happier if your friends were struggling would you?! You are 32, plenty of time to meet someone yet, OP! Don’t overthink it!

That's hard OP and I completely understand why you feel that way and it doesn't make you a horrible person. You do have time though :)

Your feelings are perfectly understandable. You are feeling left behind. At 32 you do not have plenty of time. Just get out there and make building that life your priority.

Thank you. My head knows all these things but it’s so hard to remember them at times.

If it makes you feel better at 31 I was single, I'm 36 this year and I'm married with a baby and a 3 and a half year old 😂 things sometimes happen randomly and unexpectedly

I could have written the exact same post at 32. I was very single, very childless and very aware of it. I should have been really happy when yet another friend announced an engagement or a baby. But it really hurt.

I met my husband when I was 32, had a baby at 34, another at 36 and got married in the middle. You definitely have time but I know how tough it is.

Another one here who married at 32 (after meeting partner at 31). Had my daughter at 33. Felt the same way as you, wasn't a pleasant feeling- but things can change very quickly!

Thank you. I’m so glad it worked out for you both

I feel the same way when I hear other people getting married or having kids. I've lost so many friends as they no longer have time to see me. I make every effort but they don't.

I'm around the same age as you and not really in the same situation as I'm lucky enough to have a child already from when I was younger.

I've been single for years now. When I was in my 20s, I couldn't find any men that wanted to settle down. I thought that was fair enough as most people want to have fun in their 20s, not be stuck with a single mum and a child.

I thought things would be different in my 30s and that most men would be wanting to settle down. Instead, I've found the opposite. Pretty much every guy in their 30s seem to want to go travelling, none seem to want to get married and have children. I don't think men want children til their 40s now!

I'm generalising and feeling sorry for myself, I'm aware of that. I'd love to get married and have another baby.

If anyone knows where to find men in their 30s who are ready to think about getting into a serious relationship that will lead to marriage and children, please let us know!