anyone struggle to conceive a baby at 40, but managed? What did you do to sway the odds?

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Been TTC for a long time now and am starting to think it isn’t going to happen and I’m going through secondary infertility.

Wondering if anyone ages 40 (or plus) also struggled, but managed to conceive? And if they did anything that helped!

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I’ve watched this thread @Tiletiletile1 as I’m 40 and haven’t been able to conceive. I had some miscarriages in my mid/late 30s but haven’t been pregnant now for nearly 4 years. If I’m brutally honest I need to lose more weight, eat less sugar, stop drinking entirely. Who knows if those things would work? But I should try.

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My DM had 3 dc post 40 in the 70's. She was very slim & sporty, had a very healthy diet.

Yes I did, I had one baby at 39 and another at 45.

I'm sorry but I am not going to be very helpful, but I am convinced that I finally conceived because I actually gave up thinking about it.

By about 44 DH and I had accepted that it probably wasn't going to happen naturally and we would be just the three of us, but at 45 I became pregnant. We fully realise how lucky we have been as we had tried everything before, diet etc. We even visited Men-An-Tol in Cornwall.

Not 40, conceived in at 39 and a half. Had had a miscarriage six months previous at 10 weeks.
Conceived my first baby at 35 born just before I turned 36. I did breastfeed my first for 2 years, and until I started to wean I wasn't having periods, so that slowed things down. So I wouldn't say I had secondary infertility, but I never used contraception and have 3.5 years between my children.

I have a fours friends that have struggled with having a second. One has had miscarriages in between. I can't work out why, but one is over weight and one is quite underweight, all big drinkers of coffee and alcohol. Now the thing is loads of people in these categories get pregnant no problem. It could be THE issue for them, it might make no difference.

The month I got pregnant for number 2 (six months after miscarriage) I had given up and we only had sex once quite early ( just after period ended) So there is something about not trying. Good luck

I'm 44 and been ttc for a 2nd baby for over 3 years. We conceived dd6 quickly but have really struggled this time. I had miscarriage 3 years ago aswell. I know its because of my age, and i need to lose weight. So I am giving myself 12 months to get some weight off and hopefully fall pregnant!

Sorry, i also meant to say good luck OP, I hope it happens for you ❤

I found out I was pregnant the day after my 40th birthday Had been ttc for 4 years, had a miscarriage, drs said there was nothing wrong with either of us.

At 39 I'd had enough and we went down the IVF route and had saved up enough to go private. The consultant did some extra tests on my DH and discovered that he had 97 percent non motility in his swimmers. Why this was never picked up before I don't know Anyway, we had ICSI and were fortunate to conceive on our first go.

I had spent years thinking it was me!

My sister did. Try acupuncture and either hair or blood analysis to check your vitamins levels are balanced. Get an Oesto to check you pelvis in in the right place. Sometimes secondary infertility could be your body rejecting fetus - try reading is my body baby friendly.

Had IUI for DS at 39, then conceived DD at 40 with no intervention, just ovulation sticks.

I married late and TTC for a couple of years, each month the stress, anticipation and disappointment. Had three rounds of IVF and at the last consultation I agreed to egg donation. I left there and felt a huge wave of relief that I would now have a baby, although not mine.
The next month I conceived naturally (At 41) and I know that it is said that it doesn’t have an affect but I am fully convinced it was because the pressure was off and my body just relaxed.

Naturally conceived babies at 39, 40 and 43. We feel very lucky. I think I remember a midwife saying it's not harder to conceive post-40, but the chance that the baby will be viable reduces as you age. Good luck to you

No charting or mention of trying, just stopped using contraception. My weight was good, don’t know if that’s a factor. 10 year gap from first 2 dc. Was worried about miscarriage as my first pregnancy was a missed mc. I took baby aspirin on drs advice and folic acid.

Go on holiday to get a pre wedding tan.

Drink lots and lots on holiday.

Find out shortly before the wedding that the reason your posh frock doesn't fit is because you brought back a souvenir.

I was 41 and we'd been trying for 18 months.

Hi everyone, mind if I join? I’m 40 and ttc DC1. I always thought I’d have kids but the timing with work was never right. Now I’m worried I’ve waited too long and it won’t happen. We’ve been ttc for 15months. We had a chemical pregnancy after 6months and a missed miscarriage at 9weeks in February this year. I’ve been using the Clearblue Advanced Digital fertility monitor since December. First month was the pregnancy that resulted in miscarriage. Still hoping it’s still possible.

I had 1 baby at 29 , 1 at 31 ,both conceived very quickly . Then a planned pregnancy at 39 which took 9 months to conceive, ending in early missed miscarriage, this one took me the longest out of the three , i was desperate to conceive that time.
I then decided what will be will be and relaxed, i then conceived again 4 months after miscarriage ,had a very smooth pregnancy and gave birth at 40. I am sure my relaxed approach helped me that time .

Yes. IVF and acupuncture conceived first try